𝐈𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲, 𝐰𝐞 𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐧'𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞. 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐨𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐰𝐞 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐢𝐭, 𝐰𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐢𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞.

𝐀𝐦𝐚𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰...

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Inevitability of Want: The Unattainable Desires We Can't Have

When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace.

Once you are in a relationship you think it's going to last forever. But in reality, it only lasts as long as you're working for it. If one person stops working, it falls apart.

You don't have to cheat to lose someone. You can lose someone from lack of communication, attention and respect. It's always what you do, sometimes it's what you didn't do.

Be the Love you never received.

Just because things could have been different doesn't mean they would have been better.

The worst part is when you thought you moved on and then that one thing brings all those memories back.

I wonder if we ever think of each other at the same time...

All language is but a poor translation

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Love - A Collection of Heartfelt Quotes

Shaping ourself interms of mental stability, resilience and self reflection depends purely on our principles, ethics, values and weakness. The strengths of us mostly help us to have a strong empathy. Therefore we need to shape ourself. Just like the image depicts on how a pot or vase is made as per requirement, we need to have certain requirements and fulfill them in our life.

Shaping Ourself

Cut your fallen values or ethics or weakness (leaves) and grow(bonsai tree) as needed to shape yourself beautiful as a tree and pure as oxygen.

We need to reform ourselves as per our life growth to be in better form for our future. We can do this by finding any behaviour we reflect on others which made us feel low or lost self respect. That's the notification ring to take it into notice and change accordingly. This habit can enhance our confidence with better reflection on self and others which can contribute to our memorable finite life.

Bonsai Tree Theory

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Just a Moment to Remember Ourselves

Siddhartha is a novel by Hermann Hesse, first published in 1922. The book tells the story of a young man named Siddhartha who embarks on a spiritual journey to find enlightenment. Set in ancient India, the novel explores themes of self-discovery, love, and the search for meaning in life.

Introduction

Self-discovery is an essential part of finding happiness and fulfillment in life: Understanding who we are, what we want, and what makes us happy is crucial to living a fulfilling life. Self-discovery involves exploring our values, beliefs, strengths, weaknesses, and passions, and learning to accept and love ourselves for who we are.

Self-discovery 

"Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom."

Every experience, whether positive or negative, can teach us valuable lessons about ourselves and the world around us: Life is full of ups and downs, and every experience we have can teach us something valuable. Even difficult or painful experiences can help us grow and learn more about ourselves, our values, and our priorities.

Experience 

" Experience is the child of thought, and thought is the child of action."

Love can be a powerful force for personal growth and transformation: Love has the power to transform us in many ways. Whether it's romantic love, friendship, or self-love, it can inspire us to become better versions of ourselves. Love can help us overcome our fears, heal our wounds, and connect with others in meaningful ways.

Love

"Close your eyes, fall in love, stay there.”

Attachment to material possessions, status, or relationships can lead to suffering and dissatisfaction: While it's natural to desire certain things in life, becoming too attached to them can lead to suffering and dissatisfaction. When we rely on external factors to define our worth or happiness, we give away our power and become vulnerable to disappointment. By letting go of attachment and focusing on what truly matters, such as our relationships, personal growth, and contribution to the world, we can find greater fulfillment and contentment.

Attachments 

"Attachment is the source of all suffering.”

Finding balance in life is essential for living a fulfilling and meaningful existence: Life is a balancing act, and finding the right balance between work, play, rest, and relationships is essential for living a fulfilling life. When we neglect one area of our lives, we can become stressed, burnt out, or unfulfilled. By prioritizing self-care, setting healthy boundaries, and making time for the things that matter most to us, we can create a more balanced and meaningful existence.

Balance In Life

"Balance, peace, and joy are the fruit of a successful life. It starts with recognizing your talents and finding ways to serve others by using them."

Taking the time to read and learn from the experiences of others can truly be a game-changer in your own journey of self-discovery. So why not pick up a book today and see what wisdom awaits you within its pages?

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The Path to a Fulfilling Life: 5 Essential Lessons from Siddhartha 

<ol>
<li>Allow self to feel all emotions. Sit in them. Do not distract self. Let the tears flow. Find the word that defines every emotion and just let them pass by.</li>
<li>Release and detach from those emotions after a period of time.</li>
<li>Hold on to the lesson.</li>
<li>See the good in what it was.</li>
<li>Clear conscious.</li>
<li>Shift focus. </li>
<li>Believe the best about self and life.</li>
<li>Put all efforts into progressing.</li>
<li>Continuously work on goals.</li>
</ol>

9 Steps To Win Emotionally

Give yourself time. Be mindful of the time you are dwelling on it. Keep track of thoughts. Embrace solitude. Allow yourself to heal.

Give Yourself Space To Be 

Accept and know in your heart that the experience does not define you or make you less than worthy, loved, or great. Take accountability and forgive self for any error.

Make Peace With Self

“Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny.”

Be determined to become better, and not bitter. Think thoughts of peace and love. Forgive and understand it’s okay to take time to process it. Love yourself more and love people who do not value you from a distance. Forgive yourself.

Evolve 

<ol><li>How am I viewing the situation? </li><li>How am I responding to the situation?</li><li>How has this impacted me or those around me? </li><li>How will I process the situation moving forward? </li></ol>

Reflect

Put your mind on that which is positive and that which you desire to see. Ex: Think about how you can self-develop and improve the quality of your life. Practice visualizing the life you truly want.

Change What You See 

<ul><li>Listen to motivational and faith filled messages.</li><li>Pray and meditate on scriptures that relate to your situation.</li><li>Prayer Journal what’s on your mind and heart. </li><li>Talk a walk and embrace The Creator’s presence </li></ul>*Release any guilt or shame, and believe God wants to help you overcome.

Draw Unto God

Here are some activities to channel your energy and achieve growth and positivity:

<ul>
 <li>💪 Working out</li>
 <li>📚 Reading</li>
 <li>💰 Money-making activities</li>
 <li>💆‍♀️ Self-care</li>
 <li>💤 Getting sufficient sleep</li>
 <li>🍎 Eating healthy</li>
 <li>🔨 Developing skills</li>
 <li>🎨 Working on crafts and hobbies</li>
</ul>

Additionally, listen to and speak positive affirmations to maintain a healthy mindset and avoid negativity.

Shift Your Energy

🔑 Choose safe spaces to open up :<ul><li>Hire a life coach</li><li>Go to therapy</li><li>Join a support group</li><li>Show up for yourself </li></ul>

Find Healthy Support 

<ul><li>Train your brain to recognize false beliefs or negative thoughts.</li><li>Call out the negative thoughts or lies.</li><li>Replace lies with truth.</li></ul>

Renew Your Mind 

<ul><li>Adopt a healthy diet. </li><li>Control alcohol intake and stop smoking (especially psychoactive drugs). Choose rehab or new habits. </li><li>Exercise regularly or take walks. </li><li>Breathing exercises. </li><li>Pilates, Yoga, Martial arts, Dance. </li><li>Coloring books. </li><li>Listen to Healing Frequencies : 528 Hz, 639 Hz, 432 Hz, 396 Hz.</li></ul>

Regulate Nervous System 

Do not mentally or verbally rehearse negative experiences. But focus more so on the lesson and how to apply it to your life. Stay present and bring yourself back to the present when your mind wanders back. Move forward.

Free Yourself 

REMEMBER YOUR CREATOR LOVES YOU AND HAS BRUNG YOU THIS FAR ♥️

Heartbreak, disappointment, loss, and betrayal all leave us dealing with the weight of emotions. However, if you believe “you are what you think”, then the idea is to be able to navigate our emotions to success. The key: Feel and Mind-shift.

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Getting Through & Overcoming “Something Tough” 

Learn to see when someone is playing tricks, like making you feel guilty, twisting your words, or act like the victim.

Recognize Manipulative Tactics

Clearly set and share your boundaries to safeguard your mental and emotional health. Say clearly what you're okay with and what you're not, so people can't take advantage of you.

Tell People Your Limits

When talking to a negative person, stay in control by agreeing with some of their points. It keeps you in charge without starting a pointless argument.

Agree Without Fighting

Share what you think and need with confidence, while also respecting others' rights. It helps you stay strong and not get pushed around.

Speak Up Confidently

Believe in what you feel and know. Don't let anyone make you doubt yourself or your experiences.

Trust Your Own Feelings

Keep your caring side, but don't let others hurt you. Some people act mean because they've been hurt too.

Be Kind but Protect Yourself

Talk to people you trust for support and guidance when dealing with manipulative behavior. Dealing with it is easier when you have support and aren't alone.

Ask for Help

When you feel upset, take a deep breath. It helps you stay in control and not let others control you.

Handle Your Feelings Smartly

Understand you can't change people. Instead, focus on protecting yourself and setting boundaries.

Don't Try to Change Them

The line between outsmarting a manipulator and becoming one can be a thin boundary. Any wobbles, and you’re looking at sinking to their level and becoming

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Wise Responses to Manipulative Tactics

𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐰𝐞𝐥𝐥 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐢𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧.

Mastering Self-Care: Unveiling the Art of Attraction

<ul><li>Life-long friends make new life choices, drift apart.</li><li>The career mindedness, the self optimization, the adventures, the travel, the trying to survive in desirable places to live which become comically expensive to do so — all of it has left us very tired.</li><li>Difficult to make true friends <a href="https://annehelen.substack.com/p/the-friendship-dip">after entering 30s</a></li><li>Friendship fizzling into WhatsApp volleys back and forth.</li></ul>

The dwindling presence of friendship in life

Modern loneliness masks itself as hyper connectivity. And so people have easily 1000 virtual friends, but no one they can ask to feed their cat. That loneliness, which is really a depletion of the social capital, is extremely powerful.

<ul><li>Friendships are, by their very nature, made of friction - it takes effort to know what is going on in someone’s day-to-day life and to show up for them when they maybe a vulnerable anxious mess — this is all friction.</li><li>Friction is not just interrupting your day or life to help out a friend, but also admitting you need the kind of help you cannot pay for or order yourself.</li><li>But only then, returns could be expected from them, for when your own self gets vulnerable, anxious and messy.</li></ul>

Friendship - The necessary friction

<ul><li>Modern life has brought us closer, nay made dependent, on technology and gadgets.</li><li>Modern technopolis has replaced humans with technological solutions to the problem of a lone self.</li><li>People living in their atomised technological fiefdoms - the way a hardcore capitalistic society expects them to be, to be able to sell more.</li><li>The essential skill of social negotiation learned on the streets during unscripted, un-choreographed, unmonitored interaction with people is slowly getting lost.</li><li>Social muscles are being atrophied.</li></ul>

Symptom of a larger problem - Social Atrophy

We’ve come through 75 years where having neighbors was essentially optional: if you had a credit card, you could get everything you needed to survive dropped off at your front door. But the next 75 years aren’t going to be like that; we’re going to need to return to the basic human experience of relying on the people around you.

<ul><li>It’s crucial to remember we are not machines.</li><li>Be willing to talk or engage with people who don’t share the carefully calibrated views that we broadcast online.</li><li>In addition to making the effort with friends — new, old, promising acquaintances — and asking for the kind of help and support we need, as well as providing it in return.</li><li>We need to make changes to regain the capacity to show up for these kinds of interactions and relationships.</li></ul>

We animals, need to be more social, the way we have evolved till now

The dip in friendship is a critical symptom of a larger social problem.

Why friendships have started to feel strikingly similar to admin

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The friendship problem

We all want that fairy tale romance. But now a days no one is willingto put in the work that is required to keep a long healthy relationship. Every relationship has its ups and downs. They all take work, commitment, & the willingness to adapt and change with your partner. Even if you have had many faild relationships don't mean you can't find ways to stay connected with your current partner. There is always a solution.

Building Healthy Relationships

People tend to come together for many different reasons .Part of what defines a relationship is the common goal you both you share. You both want the exact same thing You must have a deep conversation with your partner inorder to make sure you both are on the same page..

What Makes A Relationship Healthy 

There’s a difference between being loved and feeling loved. When you feel loved, it makes you feel accepted and valued by your partner, like someone truly gets you.

Emotional Connection 

You’re not afraid of (respectful) disagreement. Some couples talk things out quietly, while others may raise their voices and passionately disagree. The key in a strong relationship, though, is <a href="https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/conflict-resolution-skills.htm">not to be fearful of conflict </a>. You need to feel safe to express things that bother you without fear of retaliation, and be able to resolve conflict without humiliation, degradation, or insisting on being right.

You communicate openly and honestly. Good communication is a key part of any relationship. When both people know what they want from the relationship and feel comfortable expressing their needs, fears, and desires, it can increase trust and strengthen the bond between you.

Communication 

Whether you're looking to keep a new romantic relationship strong or repair a relationship that's on the rocks, these tips can help.

Tips for Building a Healthy Relationship

<ul><li>Loving parents can sometimes unintentionally hurt their children's self-esteem.</li><li>Overprotecting, injecting guilt, criticizing, and slinging sarcastic comments will likely hurt self-esteem and lead to defiance.</li><li>The more you communicate in positive ways, and are accountable for your negative behaviors, the better your child will feel. </li></ul>

Overprotection Parents 

As parents, we try our best to foster positive <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/basics/self-esteem">self-esteem </a>in our children. Having strong self-esteem encourages us to push through challenges, try new things, and believe in ourselves. Self-esteem is highly influential in how we see ourselves, which shapes our behaviors and decisions.

Self-steem 

1. Overprotecting Constantly shielding a child from challenges and obstacles can prevent them from developing <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/basics/confidence">confidence </a>and a sense of competence. Overprotecting can also limit a child's opportunities to explore, learn, and make mistakes, which are all important for their growth and development.Moreover, overprotecting children can lead to feelings of <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/basics/anxiety">anxiety </a>and insecurity, as they may not feel prepared to face the world on their own. It can also create a sense of dependence and a lack of independence, which can be problematic as children transition into adulthood.

Here are four types of self-esteem-sapping parental behaviors.

It’s one thing to ask a child how they would feel if they were in your shoes or someone else’s in a given situation. Too often, however, parents push this to the limit and try to make their children feel guilty because of their thoughts, feelings, or actions. Parents who use guilt to control their children run the risk of alienating them.

2. Injecting Guilt 

Being criticized by a parent can be emotionally challenging, especially if it is done in a harsh or demeaning manner. Critical comments can erode a person's self-esteem and sense of worth and can cause feelings of sadness, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/basics/anger">anger </a>, or frustration. It can also lead to a decrease in <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/basics/motivation">motivation </a>and a lack of confidence in one's abilities.

3. Critizing Harshly 

You are using sarcasm if you say things you don’t mean and imply the opposite of what you’re saying through your tone of voice. An example would be saying something like, “Oh, aren’t you smart,” when your child makes a poor choice. The use of sarcasm hurts children because it feels shaming. Putting a child down through sarcasm creates an obstacle for parents trying to communicate effectively.

4. Speaking With Sarcasm 

It’s easy to say, “I just won’t do that anymore,” and still fall into the pattern of repeating these problematic behaviors. Occasional slips may occur. When they do, address these negative behaviors with your child.

Losses In Self-Esteem May Trigger Gains In Defiance

As I explain in <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Days-Less-Defiant-Child-Breakthrough-dp-0306829800/dp/0306829800/ref=dp_ob_image_bk">10 Days to a Less Defiant Child </a>, as a result of being exposed to the <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/basics/parenting">parenting </a>behaviors discussed above, children may lash out later on in ways that are emotionally hurtful and upsetting. This can include tantrums, expressing resentments, frequently being argumentative, and defying reasonable requests. Many children and teens have admitted tome that these negative emotions and behaviors they engage in after feeling hurt by their parents.

Less Defiant Child 

Craig had made very strong progress in relating to his son in a far less critical manner—until one night when Tom and Craig were at a soccer awards banquet, and Tom sarcastically mocked him for looking down when he received his award. I coached Craig not to beat himself up, and he was determined to continue to be less controlling and more open. With this in mind, Craig approached Tom and said, “Tom, I <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/basics/forgiveness">apologize </a>for being so sarcastic and critical of you. Seeing you up there, getting that award, made me feel honored to be your father.”

Reflect On Your Negative Behaviors 

Your ways of interacting with your child play a huge influence in shaping how they develop self-value in their life. The more you communicate in positive ways, and model being accountable for your negative behaviors, the more you can influence your child to do the same—and support them in having strong self-esteem.

Final Thoughts 

Even the most loving and caring parents may inadvertantly harm their kids.

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