I had three good friends when I was in middle school.We were inseparable. But l ike many inseparable things, life cut through our bonds. We got to high school, and seeing each other became harder. Then, I started my first long relationship. And as many first relationships, we became toxic towards each other.

What Leads to Loneliness?

I put her in first place in front of my friends. And she did the same. So, after 5 years, it finished. And I was alone.I had nothing — no friends, no parties, and no fun. It felt like a meteor crushed my reality. And for many days, I thought I couldn’t make it.

What Is Loneliness

Making friends at university is challenging. Everyone has their groups of friends they meet on Saturday nights. But I didn’t.Loneliness was always there with me. It hid behind a fake smile, waiting for me to get home. And when I did, it hit me.But I managed to get over it. And I want to share how because I see many people struggle like I did. It could help you get over your lonely moments too.So, here’s what to do when you feel alone.

Getting Over It

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First thing — don’t panic.Many people today think loneliness is an illness they have to cure. But that’s the wrong way to see it.Feeling lonely once in a while is <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6179015/">completely normal</a>. One in four people are lonely regularly. And usually, our feelings seem worse than they are because of the society we live in.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Everyone seems happy on their social accounts.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Our social profiles seem like the exact image of our lives.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Our brains get used to <a href="https://www.cosmopolitanmindset.com/delayed-gratification-to-help-improve-your-life/">instant gratification</a>.</li></ul>

Accept Loneliness Before Its Cure (1)

And we don’t have any experience managing our mood when we feel nostalgia or loneliness.We try so hard to get over those feelings that we never get to experience them. But it’s ok to cry sometimes. I cried many times when I felt alone. But I don’t feel shame. I feel grateful for experiencing my lowest low. Now I know I don’t want to get there again. Accepting it makes you stronger. It prepares you for those moments when social networks won’t distract you anymore. Or when you’ll have to be strong and supportive of others even if you feel lonely.But how do you accept loneliness?

Accept Loneliness Before Its Cure (2)

You accept loneliness when you accept its existence.I know it sounds like a stupid sentence. But think about it!Loneliness is an emotion. And all emotions have an expiration date.

Loneliness is an Emotion (1)

Every time you get through those dark times, remember these features. Loneliness is an emotion:<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">with an expiration date</li><li class="ql-align-justify">that you can’t control</li><li class="ql-align-justify">that happens whenever it wants</li><li class="ql-align-justify">and ends whenever it wants.</li></ul>So don’t fight it. Accept it. Deal with it. And it will pass faster.Or, if you want to accelerate the process, there’s a facilitator that helped me a lot in the past — anger.

Loneliness is an Emotion (2)

Anger is a negative emotion. But it has its advantages. Otherwise, why would it resist evolution?Loneliness destroys your mood. It makes you give up and feel pity. But anger forces you to wake up and react. When used properly, anger reinvigorates your mood and replaces your loneliness. It doesn’t last forever. But it works. And it can also transform into motivation.

The Power of Anger

Loneliness generates pity. And pity triggers anger. But if you haven’t matured that loneliness long enough, your anger won’t help for too long.It will motivate some of your actions. But it won’t last.Many times, when I felt lonely, I solved it with anger. And it motivated me to work out to get in shape. It helped me study to pass my exams. But that motivation never lasts more than a week. Over time, these failures became unbearable. I felt useless. And that’s when something inside me broke forever.

Your Breaking Point Is The Starting Point (1)

Once loneliness broke my spirit, I only had two choices:<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">I could give up and accept my situation.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Or I could use the pain and anger to build a better version of myself. </li></ul>But this time, the motivation was different. It came from a surviving necessity.The pain became too much and the anger too strong. I wanted to prove to people I was worth their time. And that’s when everything changed for me.That's when everything changes.

Your Breaking Point Is The Starting Point (2)

You picked the second option. Otherwise, you won’t be here.So, you are broke. But, good news! It can’t get worse. You might have reached rock bottom. Now, you can use the pain you feel in the chest to become a better person.In the <a href="https://cosmopolitanmindset.substack.com/p/your-next-6-months">next six months </a>, you could become a stranger. But you must start with one small improvement and commit to it.Motivation builds up over time if you pick the right habit and stick to it. So, choose something simple, almost impossible to miss. But it has to improve your life in some way.

Defeat Loneliness with Your Motivation (1)

Here’s a short list of habits you might want to use:<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Make your bed every morning (organizational) .</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Drink a glass of water first thing in the morning (healthy) .</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Sleep at least 7/8 hours (healthy) .</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Write a to-do list every morning (organizational) .</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Make an emotional check-in every evening (healthy) .</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Take a walk every day (healthy) .</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Read at least 10 pages every day (organizational) .</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Exercise/meditate every day (healthy) .</li></ul>Once you master one of these habits, you can build more on top of it. Your motivation will grow. Your willpower will strengthen. And you will attract more people.

Defeat Loneliness with Your Motivation (2)

Confidence will be the final breath of loneliness.Your new habits will make you a better person. Better people attract new opportunities and curiosity from their peers. But you have to keep that interest high until you bond with them. So, confidence is not enough — storytelling is fundamental.But what’s the difference? And why do you need both?

The Final Breath of Loneliness (1)

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify"><a href="https://cosmopolitanmindset.substack.com/p/the-art-of-confidence">Confidence </a>is the courage to interact with people and catch new opportunities.</li><li class="ql-align-justify"><a href="https://cosmopolitanmindset.substack.com/p/3-simple-rules-to-boost-your-storytelling">Storytelling </a>is how you keep people hooked.</li></ul>You won’t escape loneliness without confidence. And it will be challenging to keep people’s interest without decent storytelling skills. So, improve them both after your health and organization.That’s what will make you escape loneliness.

The Final Breath of Loneliness (2)

I don’t want to lie to you. Escaping loneliness might be the most challenging task you will ever have to fight.It might take you six months. It might take you two years or more. But nobody stays alone forever. The world’s too crowded for you to remain alone forever. Yet, you must get on the right track to improve your life and attract more people. So this week, do some research. Find three books you will read to escape loneliness: one about habits, one about confidence, and the last about storytelling.[<a href="https://cosmopolitanmindset.substack.com/p/how-do-i-stop-feeling-lonely">DOWNLOAD</a> THE FREE INFOGRAPHIC]

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Do you feel lonely? Discover how I overcame loneliness and found a connection with new people in the past. Follow my lead and improve your life.

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there is a huge difference betwen job and calling. job is something you choose; calling is something for which you are chosen

Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.

True strength is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.

The only way to do great work is to love what you do.

Believe you can and you're halfway there.

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.

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A 1% improvement in something barely noticeable (sometimes even invisible) can actually be much more meaningful, especially over the long term. What starts as a small victory or minor setback can accumulate into something much larger.

It doesn't matter how successful or unsuccessful you are right now. What matters is whether your habits are putting you on a path towards success or not.

Achieving goals only changes your life momentarily. This is counterintuitive to improvement. What we really need to change are the systems that produce those results.

If you find it difficult to change your habits, the problem isn't you. The problem lies in your system. Bad habits repeat not because you don't want to change, but because you have a faulty system for change.

Changing habits is difficult for two reasons: (1) we try to change something but miss the target, and (2) we try to change habits in the wrong way.

Your identity comes from your habits. You aren't born with inherent beliefs. Every belief, including those about yourself, is learned and conditioned through experience. More precisely, your habits depend on how you embody your identity.

Habits don't limit freedom. They create it. In reality, people who neglect their habits often have the least freedom.

One of our biggest challenges in changing habits is maintaining awareness of what we're actually doing. This helps explain why the consequences of bad habits can suddenly appear.

If you want to increase the likelihood of a behavior occurring, you need to make it attractive.

The actual cause of your habits is the anticipation that precedes the habit. Prediction leads to feelings.

Habits become attractive when associated with positive feelings and unattractive when associated with negative feelings.

In practice, it's not crucial how long a habit takes to become automatic. What matters is that you're doing what's necessary to make progress. Whether the action becomes fully automatic isn't so important.

The more often you ritualize the beginning of a process, the greater your chances of entering deeper focus needed for major things.

The best way to dismantle bad habits is to make their implementation impractical. Increase the barriers until you're reluctant to even do them.

The formula for stacking habits + monitoring habits is: After (current habit), I will (monitor my habit).

The secret to maximizing your chances of success is choosing the right field of competition.

The only way to become great is to stay enthusiastic about doing the same thing over and over again. You must fall in love with boredom.

The positive side of habits is that we can do something without thinking. The negative side is that we ignore opportunities for small mistakes to occur.

The #1 New York Times bestseller. Over 10 million copies sold! Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results No matter your goals, Atomic Habits offers a proven framework for improving--every day. James Clear, one of the world's leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach you exactly how to form good habits, break bad ones, and master the tiny behaviors that lead to remarkable results. If you're having trouble changing your habits, the problem isn't you. The problem is your system. Bad habits repeat themselves again and again not because you don't want to change, but because you have the wrong system for change. You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems. Here, you'll get a proven system that can take you to new heights. Clear is known for his ability to distill complex topics into simple behaviors that can be easily applied to daily life and work. Here, he draws on the most proven ideas from biology, psychology, and neuroscience to create an easy-to-understand guide for making good habits inevitable and bad habits impossible. Along the way, readers will be inspired and entertained with true stories from Olympic gold medalists, award-winning artists, business leaders, life-saving physicians, and star comedians who have used the science of small habits to master their craft and vault to the top of their field. Learn how to: <ul><li>make time for new habits (even when life gets crazy);</li></ul><ul><li>overcome a lack of motivation and willpower;</li></ul><ul><li>design your environment to make success easier;</li></ul><ul><li>get back on track when you fall off course;</li></ul>...and much more. Atomic Habits will reshape the way you think about progress and success, and give you the tools and strategies you need to transform your habits--whether you are a team looking to win a championship, an organization hoping to redefine an industry, or simply an individual who wishes to quit smoking, lose weight, reduce stress, or achieve any other goal.

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James Clear is the author of "Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones" He writes about habits, decision-making, and continuous improvement at jamesclear.com. His website receives millions of visitors each month and hundreds of thousands subscribe to his popular email newsletter.His work has appeared in the New York Times, Entrepreneur, Time, and on CBS This Morning. He is a regular speaker at Fortune 500 companies and his work is used by teams in the NFL, NBA, and MLB. Learn more at jamesclear.com

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1. Sharing2. Reading3. Learning4. Caring

Tips to Improve Your Learning Skills

Share your knowledge and ideas with others. This helps to reinforce your understanding and get different perspectives. It also promotes critical thinking.

Sharing:

Read regularly and purposefully. Choose topics that interest you and challenge yourself with new material. You will develop vocabulary, comprehension and critical thinking skills.

Reading:

Use active learning techniques like taking notes, summarizing, and teaching others. It will help you retain knowledge and understand concepts better.

Learning:

Take care of your well-being while learning. Take breaks, get enough sleep, and eat well. Healthy habits lead to a healthy mind and improve learning.

Caring:

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"It didn't matter one bit if I was the only person dancing, I was so into supporting my friends' art."

"It was important to me to be the straight-A student. In a way, I was a rebel by getting good grades, because most of the stoners and the druggies were getting no grades."

"it started dawning on me that you don't have to be Al Green or have an incredible Freddie Mercury voice to have a place in the world of music. Rhyming and developing a character were another way to do it."

"I instinctively knew that the miracle of manipulating energy and tapping into an infinite source of power and harnessing it in a small space with your friends was what I had been put on this earth to do."

"At last, I had something to do that had meaning and purpose. I felt I could put every idea and stupid little philosophy that I had into a song."

"It's so lonely when you don't even know yourself."

"It's always important to give things away; it creates good energy. If you have a closet full of clothes, and you try to keep them all, your life will get very small. But if you have a full closet and someone sees something they like, if you give it to them, the world is a better place."

"I recognize when I feel a sense of entitlement you get used to having things your way - but I also recognize the absurdity of that, and I'm willing to laugh at myself and to acknowledge when I'm being a spoiled brat and when I'm not. I found it fascinating and peculiar, more than suddenly thinking I was better than or holier them."

"When you're at odds with yourself, it's hard to create. Sometimes the writing process is as easy as opening up the window and letting in the breeze. And sometimes it's like chiseling away at a block of granite with a pencil."

"You're feeling like shit? Go get out of yourself and do something for someone else, voila, you don't feel like shit anymore. You're confused and you're driving yourself crazy? Go call a guy who's got three days sober and has no clue what to do. The minute you get out of your self-centered mind-set, you're instantly freed of your own pain."

"It's that appreciation of every emotion in the spectrum that that I live for. I don't go out of my way to create it, but I have found a way to embrace all of it. It's not about putting down any of these experiences, because now that I've had them, and now that I'm almost four years sober, I'm in a position to be of service to hundreds of other suffering people."

In this "vivid and inspiring" New York Times bestseller (Newsweek), the Red Hot Chili Peppers' lead singer and songwriter shares a searingly honest account of life in the rock scene's fast lane—from the darkness into the light. In 1983, four self-described "knuckleheads" burst out of the mosh-pitted mosaic of the neo-punk rock scene in L.A. with their own unique brand of cosmic hardcore mayhem funk. Over twenty years later, the Red Hot Chili Peppers, against all odds, have become one of the most successful bands in the world. Though the band has gone through many incarnations, Anthony Kiedis, the group's lyricist and dynamic lead singer, has been there for the whole roller-coaster ride. In Scar Tissue, Kiedis delivers a compelling life story from a man "in love with everything"—the darkness, the death, the disease. Even his descent into drug addiction was a part of that journey, another element transformed into art. Whether he's honoring the influence of the beautiful, strong women who have been his muses or remembering the roaring crowds of Woodstock and the Dalai Lama's humble compound, Kiedis shares a compelling story about the price of success and excess. Scar Tissue is a story of dedication and debauchery, of intrigue and integrity, of recklessness and redemption—a story that could only have come out of the world of rock.

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Make your relationship with God your top priority. Spend time daily in prayer and reading the Bible. Participate in church activities and fellowship with other believers to grow in your faith and understanding of God's will.

1. Faith and Relationship with God

Live a life of honesty, humility, and integrity. Reflect Christ-like qualities in your actions and decisions. Be consistent in your words and actions, and strive to be a man of your word, following biblical principled

2. Character and Integrity

Show love and respect to everyone, regardless of their background. Treat others with kindness, patience, and understanding, following the example of Jesus. Engage in acts of service and generosity, both within your community and beyond.

3. Love and Respect for Others

Take responsibility for your actions and be a leader in your family, church, and community. Lead by example, demonstrating strong moral values and a commitment to doing what is right. Encourage and support those around you to grow and develop their own faith.

4. Responsibility and Leadership

Work diligently in all areas of your life, including your career, education, and personal development. Strive for excellence, using the gifts and talents God has given you to their fullest potential. Maintain a balance between work and rest, ensuring that you are also taking care of your physical and mental health.

5. Pursuit of Excellence and Diligence

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Always act with honesty and transparency. Make decisions based on ethical principles and lead by example. Build trust with your team by being consistent and reliable.

1. Integrity.

Clearly articulate your vision, goals, and expectations. Encourage open dialogue and active listening. Provide regular feedback and foster an environment where team members feel heard and valued.

2. Communication

Show genuine concern for the well-being of your team members. Understand their perspectives and needs. Offer support during challenges and recognize their achievements.

3. Empathy

Make informed decisions promptly, even in uncertain situations. Weigh the pros and cons, consult with experts when necessary, and commit to a course of action. Stand by your decisions and take responsibility for the outcomes.

4. Decisiveness

Be open to change and willing to adjust strategies as needed. Stay flexible in your approach and encourage innovation. Lead your team through transitions with a positive attitude and a focus on solutions.

5. Adaptability

Develop a clear and compelling vision for the future. Communicate this vision effectively and inspire your team to work towards it. Align team goals with the larger organizational objectives.

6. Vision

Trust your team members with responsibilities and empower them to take ownership of their tasks. Match tasks to their strengths and provide the necessary resources and support. Monitor progress but avoid micromanaging.

7. Delegation

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7 Traits of Every Effective Leader

Pain often triggers significant life changes, pushing us to reassess our goals and values.

Pain as a Catalyst for Change

Facing and overcoming pain builds inner strength, enhancing our resilience and fortitude.

Strength Through Adversity

Experiencing pain deepens our compassion for others, helping us relate to and support those in similar situations.

Cultivating Compassion

Painful experiences are rich with lessons, teaching us about our limits, capabilities, and true selves.

Learning and Growth

Navigating pain improves our emotional intelligence, aiding in better understanding and managing our emotions.

Building Emotional Intelligence

Pain can make us appreciate the positive aspects of life more deeply, fostering a sense of gratitude and contentment.

Fostering Gratitude

Overcoming challenges sharpens our problem-solving abilities, preparing us for future obstacles.

Enhancing Problem-Solving Skills

Pain forces introspection, leading to greater self-awareness and understanding of our own needs and desires.

Promoting Self-Awareness

Confronting pain can help us take responsibility for our actions and decisions, leading to personal growth.

Encouraging Personal Responsibility

Sharing our pain with others can strengthen relationships through vulnerability and mutual support.

Strengthening Relationships

Pain can lead us to discover new purposes and passions, aligning our lives with deeper meaning and fulfillment.

Finding Purpose

"Pain is the crucible of transformation, molding us into stronger, wiser beings."

Pain is an inevitable part of life. Instead of avoiding it, embracing pain can lead to remarkable personal growth and strength. By understanding and accepting pain, we can transform our challenges into opportunities for profound development.

Embrace Pain: Turning Life's Trials into Triumphs

No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it's not the same river and he's not the same man.

Even a broken clock is right two times a day.

Paper has more patience than people.

Some random quotes that I heard but are stuck in my mind.

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Planning is the first step to success.✅️ Create detailed action plans✅️ Set short-term and long term goals.✅️ Review progress regularly"A goal without a plan is just a wish"💭<a href="https://elevatedpath.beehiiv.com/subscribe">The Art of Habits</a> (Its Free)

1: Strategic Planning 💡

Discipline turns goals into accomplishments✅️ Stick to your routines✅️ Avoid distractions and stay focused✅️ Practice consistency in everything you do"Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment" 🏆

2: Self-Discipline 🧘‍♂️

Your network is your net worth.✅️ Build strong, genuine connections✅️ Seek out mentors and advisors✅️ Attend industry events and meet others"The richest. people in the world look to build a network, everyone else looks for work" 🧠

3: Networking 🌐

Master your time to master success.✅️ Prioritize tasks based on importance✅️ Use tools like calendars and 2nd brains✅️ Set deadlines and stick to them"Time management is life management" 📝<a href="https://elevatedpath.beehiiv.com/subscribe">The Art of Habits</a> (Its Free)

4: Time Management ⏰️

A positive mindset is a powerful tool.✅️ Focus on solutions, not problems✅️ Surround yourself with positivity✅️ Stay grateful for your blessings"Your mindset determines your success"🥇

5: Positive Mindset 🔥

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