<ul><li>“When we expect our partners to be more like us, we are automatically giving them the message that they are not good enough the way they are.”</li><li>“women talk about problems to get close and not necessarily to get solutions.”</li><li>We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they will react the same ways we react and behave when we love someone.</li><li>Proving one’s competence is not as important to a woman, offering help is not offensive, and needing help is not a sign of weakness.</li><li>“He feels better by solving problems while she feels better by talking about problems.”</li></ul>

How to improve relationship  with the opposite gender

<ul><li>“Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed and women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished.”</li><li>“To fully express their feelings, women assume poetic licence to use various superlatives, metaphors, and generalisations.”</li><li>“When a man loves a woman, periodically he needs to pull away before he can get closer.”</li><li>“A woman’s self-esteem rises and falls like a wave. When she hits bottom it is a time for emotional house cleaning.”</li></ul>

The Phenomenal #1 New York Times Bestseller In his classic guide to understanding the opposite sex, Dr. John Gray, provides a practical and proven way for men and women to improve their communication and relationships by acknowledging the differences between them. Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets. Based on years of successful counseling of couples and individuals, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has helped millions of couples transform their relationships. Now viewed as a modern classic, this timeless book has helped men and women realize how different they can be in their communication styles, their emotional needs, and their modes of behavior, and offers the secrets of communicating without conflicts, allowing couples to give intimacy every chance to grow.

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Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

<ul><li>Identifying and prevent approval-seeking behavior.</li><li>Don't appear needless and wantless, otherwise your needs will not be met. Make your needs a priority. </li><li>The absence of any discernible life energy in Nice Guys, is the reason that there's little to be attracted to.</li><li>“Connecting With Men Helps Nice Guys Reclaim Their Masculinity.”  Build meaningful relationships with men.</li><li>Face your fears. Develop integrity and honesty. Set boundaries.</li><li>Deal with problems directly.</li></ul>

How to not finish last being nice guy

Debunks the "nice guy syndrome," the need to please others at one's own expense with the hope of receiving happiness, love, and fulfillment, and offers advice for how to rediscover oneself, revive one's sex life, and build better relationships with others.

No More Mr. Nice Guy!

<ul><li>Listen to the voice in your head without any judgement. </li><li>Observe the habitual tendency of your mind to want to escape from the Now.</li><li>The moment we realize we are not present, we are present.</li><li>You can free yourself from your mind by 'watching the thinker'</li></ul>

Watch the Thinker

<ul><li>Gap in the mind stream is ‘no-mind’ which is the key to peace.</li><li>This gap can be created through mindfulness or directing our attention to the 'Now' or any activity.</li><li>“Every time you create a gap in the steam of your mind, the light of your consciousness grows stronger.”</li><li>Most creative breakthroughs often come at a time of mental quietude.</li></ul>

Experience 'No-mind'

<ul><li>“Intensity of pain depends on the degree of resistance to the present moment.”</li><li>As we step out of the resistance patterns, we can then allow the present moment to be through acceptance.</li></ul>

Embrace the present

The author shares the secret of his own self-realization and the philosophy for living in the present he has developed.

The Power of Now

<ul><li>The deepest urge in human nature is ‘the desire to be important.’ Make others feel important.</li><li>Give honest and sincere appreciation.</li><li>The only way on earth to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it. </li><li>Get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.</li><li>You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.</li><li>Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.</li></ul>

Talk in terms of the other person’s interests

<ul><li>Say ‘Hello’ in tones that speak how pleased you are to have the person call.” Smile even on a call, it comes through in voice</li><li>Most times people don't want advice but a friendly, sympathetic listener to whom he could unburden himself. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.</li><li>Ask questions that other people will enjoy answering.</li><li>Story telling is the most underrated skills, Dramatize your ideas, become a great story teller and learn to keep people interested.</li></ul>

Master verbal communication

<ul><li>In an argument or in a heated situation, keep calm and watch out for your first reaction. It may be you at your worst.</li><li>In an argument, look for areas of agreement.</li><li>Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, ‘You’re wrong directly.</li><li>If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.</li><li>Say ‘If I were you I would undoubtedly feel just as you do.’ An answer like that will soften people.</li><li>Talk about your own mistakes before criticising the other person.</li></ul>

How to deal with conflicts

<ul><li>Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.</li><li>Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.</li><li>Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement.</li><li>Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.</li><li>Make the fault seem easy to correct.</li></ul>

How to converse effectively as a leader

Do you feel stuck in life, not knowing how to make it more successful? Do you wish to become more popular? Are you craving to earn more? Do you wish to expand your horizon, earn new clients and win people over with your ideas? How to Win Friends and Influence People is a well-researched and comprehensive guide that will help you through these everyday problems and make success look easier. You can learn to expand your social circle, polish your skill set, find ways to put forward your thoughts more clearly, and build mental strength to counter all hurdles that you may come across on the path to success. Having helped millions of readers from the world over achieve their goals, the clearly listed techniques and principles will be the answers to all your questions.

How to Win Friends and Influence People

<ul><li>Happiness can’t be found by a ‘if-then’ assurance. Genuine happiness is a ‘now-and-here’ skill.</li><li>The fundamental flaw in searching for happiness ‘out there’ lies in confusing pleasure for happiness.</li><li>The happiest people seem to be those who have no particular cause for being happy except that they are so.</li><li>Remember, you don’t have to be happy for the rest of your life, only now. Be.</li></ul>

Causeless Happiness

<ul><li>Happy People Assume Full Accountability for Their Circumstance.</li><li>Create opportunities for new discoveries</li><li>Mind your own business. You can never be better off by concerning yourself with analyzing someone else’s life.</li><li>Don’t get used to yourself,  create opportunities for new discoveries.</li><li>Learn to gauge the size of a disappointment with a longer-term mindset.</li><li>Gratitude is probably the single most telling characteristic of happiness.</li></ul>

Happiness is a skill

<ul><li>Once bitten by the craving of ‘more’, it never really turns into ‘enough.</li><li>Happy people don’t over-expect. Be pragmatic.</li><li>Happy people instinctively embrace the enormity of the gift of life by pausing at all the tiny wonders to derive more joy from simple delights.</li></ul>

Less is more

Don’t waste another day feeling unfulfilled—a guide to mastering the habits of happiness by the Wall Street Journal-bestselling author of Unlimited Memory. Happiness is more than just a feeling—it’s a learned skill. When you master the habits of happiness, your life will be filled with more peace, purpose, and passion. The answers lie within the depths of your mind. The Happy Mind offers valuable insights for building lasting happiness instead of being driven by short-term pleasure seeking. When you look at all the scientific research, religious teachings, and philosophical insights surrounding the topic of happiness, one thing becomes clear: We all experience happiness differently. What makes one person happy may make another miserable. This book is about customizing your happiness—and finding your own unique roadmap. You’ll learn: How people search for happiness in all the wrong places, and how you can avoid these “happiness traps” that keep you stuck and unfulfilled Why most people mistake pleasure for happiness, and how this simple mistake causes you to lose sight of what really matters to you The nine common qualities that super happy people share (and how you can apply them to brighten up your life) The key traits of unhappiness (and the most important behaviors you should avoid) Easy changes you can make that will create more long-term happiness for you and your loved ones

The Happy Mind

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Smile at the right time to show genuineness.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">A delayed smile make people realize that the smile was genuinely for them and it took some time for you to register their face.</li></ul>

The Flooding Smile

<ul><li>Hold your gaze as much as possible.</li><li>A good hack to have a proper eye contact is to trying to notice their eye color.</li><li>After finishing the conversation, hold the eye contact for some more time.</li></ul>

The Sticky Eyes

“Watch your posture whenever you walk through a doorway. Hold your head high, your shoulders back, and your torso out. This will convey confidence and command respect.”

Command confidence from your posture

<ul><li>Mirroring the person you're talking to make them like you and give them a feeling there are lot of things in common between you.</li><li>Pretend that the person you are meeting is an old friend. </li></ul>

The Parrot Technique

<ul><li>The Whazat Technique: Ask questions (About something unusual ideally for a complete stranger) to start a conversation.</li><li>Never just give a naked introduction. Share something interesting about the person.</li><li>Be a word detective. Listen to clues and what the other person is telling you for topics of conversation.</li><li>Avoid the quick ‘me too’.  Let the other person discuss his or her interest before you reveal yours.</li></ul>

How to have a good first impression

<ul><li>Use people’s names frequently.</li><li>Compliment people behind their back.</li><li>Echo the emotion of someone who is upset and avoid using facts.</li></ul>

How to make people like conversing with you

"You'll not only break the ice, you'll melt it away with your new skills." -- Larry King "The lost art of verbal communication may be revitalized by Leil Lowndes." -- Harvey McKay, author of “How to Swim with the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive” What is that magic quality makes some people instantly loved and respected? Everyone wants to be their friend (or, if single, their lover!) In business, they rise swiftly to the top of the corporate ladder. What is their "Midas touch?" What it boils down to is a more skillful way of dealing with people. The author has spent her career teaching people how to communicate for success. In her book How to Talk to Anyone (Contemporary Books, October 2003) Lowndes offers 92 easy and effective sure-fire success techniques-- she takes the reader from first meeting all the way up to sophisticated techniques used by the big winners in life. In this information-packed book you’ll find: 9 ways to make a dynamite first impression 14 ways to master small talk, "big talk," and body language 14 ways to walk and talk like a VIP or celebrity 6 ways to sound like an insider in any crowd 7 ways to establish deep subliminal rapport with anyone 9 ways to feed someone's ego (and know when NOT to!) 11 ways to make your phone a powerful communications tool 15 ways to work a party like a politician works a room 7 ways to talk with tigers and not get eaten alive In her trademark entertaining and straight-shooting style, Leil gives the techniques catchy names so you'll remember them when you really need them, including: "Rubberneck the Room," "Be a Copyclass," "Come Hither Hands," “Bare Their Hot Button,” “The Great Scorecard in the Sky," and "Play the Tombstone Game,” for big success in your social life, romance, and business. How to Talk to Anyone, which is an update of her popular book, Talking the Winner's Way (see the 5-star reviews of the latter) is based on solid research about techniques that work! By the way, don't confuse How to Talk to Anyone with one of Leil's previous books, How to Talk to Anybody About Anything. This one is completely different!

How to Talk to Anyone

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<li>We are what we think subconsciously all day long.</li>
<li>“Your subconscious mind is principle and works according to the law of belief” - the subconscious mind is reactive and responds to the nature of your thoughts.</li>
<li>You are naturally more inclined to do things that your subconscious mind believes.</li>
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You are what your subconscious thoughts are

<ul><li>You think with your conscious mind, and whatever you habitually think sinks down into your subconscious mind.</li><li>If you consciously assume something as true, even though it may be false, your subconscious mind will accept it as true and proceed to bring about results.</li><li>Your conscious and subconscious mind must agree. Your subconscious accepts what you really feel.</li><li>Prior to sleep, turn over a specific request to your subconscious mind and prove its miracle-working power to yourself. Lull yourself to sleep with the words. Eg: The exact time you wish to arise, and it will awaken you. It needs no clock.</li></ul>

How to rewire the subconscious mind

Our subconscious mind can be the most powerful tool if we learn to rewire it in our favor. The book 'The Power of Your Subconscious Mind' exactly tells us how through these ideas.

The unique feature of this book is its down-to-earth practicality Here you are presented with simple, usable techniques and formulas, which you can easily apply in your workaday world. I have taught these simple processes to men and women all over the world, and recently over a thousand men and women of all religious affiliations attended a special class in Los Angeles where I presented the highlights of what is offered in the pages of this book. Many came from distances of two hundred miles for each class lesson. The special features of this book will appeal to you because they show you why oftentimes you get the opposite of what you prayed for and reveal to you the reasons why. People have asked me in all parts of the world and thousands of times, ?Why is it I have prayed and prayed and got no answer?? In this book you will find the reasons for this common complaint. The many ways of impressing the subconscious mind and getting the right answers make this an extraordinarily valuable book and an ever present help in time of trouble.

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Personal Development

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The Power of Your Subconscious Mind

<ul><li>Once we start paying attention to our feelings, thoughts tend to stop affecting us. Be aware of your thoughts.</li><li>Before reacting, take a 60 seconds pause.</li><li>Do nostril exercise.</li><li>Acknowledge your anger, don’t act and don’t ignore it. Understand why you’re feeling the way you’re feeling.</li><li>Distract your brain. Singing, humor, breathing, and chanting prevents the anger from bursting.</li><li>Reward yourself for controlling your anger.</li><li>Channelize your anger: Do a quick round of push ups, may be clean some dishes or anything to channelize the negative energy. </li><li>Practice meditation for permanent solution.</li></ul>

Anger Management: Practical tips

What are some quick hacks to manage anger?

<ul><li>For rich people, the their asset generates more than enough to cover expenses, with the savings reinvested into the assets. So assets continue to grow and they keep getting more rich.</li><li>"Compound interest is the 8th wonder of the world" - Consistently investing money will grow exponentially over a long period of time. Keep investing patiently and let the compound interest do its magic.</li></ul>

“Rich don’t work for money, they let money work for them.”

<ul><li>It should not be Savings = Income - Expense, it should be  Expenses = Income - Savings.</li><li>Rich buys luxuries last.</li><li>Think about paying yourself fast, not government taxes or bills.</li></ul>

"Pay yourself first"

A good metric of Wealth is, if you stop working today, how many days will you survive with current expenses.

Metric of wealth

<ul><li>Pay well to the people generating your assets, than people giving you liabilities.</li><li>Trade properties with bigger properties.</li><li>Use money to make more money by generating more assets.</li></ul>

Generate assets

Although we have been successful in our careers, they have not turned out quite as we expected. We both have changed positions several times-for all the right reasons-but there are no pension plans vesting on our behalf. Our retirement funds are growing only through our individual contributions. Michael and I have a wonderful marriage with three great children. As I write this, two are in college and one is just beginning high school. We have spent a fortune making sure our children have received the best education available. One day in 1996, one of my children came home disillusioned with school. He was bored and tired of studying. “Why should I put time into studying subjects I will never use in real life?” he protested. Without thinking, I responded, “Because if you don't get good grades, you won't get into college.” “Regardless of whether I go to college,” he replied, “I'm going to be rich.”

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Rich Dad, Poor Dad

<ul><li>Seek wealth not money or Status - Status and money is zero-sum game but creating wealth is not zero-sum game. Wealth is having assets that make money while you sleep.</li><li>You’ll get rich by giving society what it wants but doesn’t know yet how to get, at scale.</li><li>All the returns in life be it wealth, relationships, knowledge (should) compounds over time.</li><li>Don’t upgrade your lifestyle right after or frequently after increasing income.</li><li></li></ul>

How to get rich?

<ul><li>Arm yourself with your specific knowledge, accountability and leverage.</li><li>Specific knowledge is generally a highly technical or a creative skill.</li><li>Your specific knowledge will help you to escape competition through authenticity.</li><li>Earn with your mind not time.</li></ul>

Discover your Specific Knowledge.

<ul><li>Value your time by hourly rate, if a work costs more than your hourly rate, outsource it or don’t do it.</li><li>Bigger the creative/non-repetitive component of a work, more the opportunity of the gap between input (efforts/time) and output (returns).</li></ul>

Value your time.

<ul><li>Teaching forces learning.</li><li>If you’re memorizing advanced concepts without being able to re-derive them as needed, you’re lost.</li></ul>

How to learn?

<ul><li>Things to think most about: where to live, with whom to be in relationship with, what job to do.</li><li>Retirement is when you stop sacrificing today for an imaginary future.</li><li>Easy choices, hard life. Hard choices, easy life.</li><li>A metric of good life or freedom: how much of the day is spent doing things out of interest rather than out of obligation.</li><li>Wisdom is understanding the long term consequences of your actions.</li></ul>

How to live life?

<ul><li>Creating more opportunities through hard work and persistence.</li><li>Becoming good at spotting luck like a lucky break or building a unique character/brand when luck/opportunities find you.</li></ul>

How to be lucky?

<ul><li>Happiness is really a default state, happiness is there when you remove the sense of something missing in your life.</li><li>More desires, less happiness if you can’t fulfil them. Choose one big desire in life at any given time to give yourself purpose and motivation.</li><li>The more present you are, the more happy you are.</li><li>Peace is happiness at rest, and happiness is peace in motion. You can convert them anytime you want.</li><li>Try to eliminate as many 'shoulds' in your life, real happiness is when you do everything you want to do not should do.</li><li>The world just reflects your own feelings back at you.</li></ul>

How to be happy?

<ul><li>You don't want peace of mind, you want peach from mind. Remove the mind's chattering and you will get peace.</li><li>Use meditation, exercise and music to reset your mood.</li><li>For every annoyance, build a habit of thinking what is the positive thing about it.</li><li>A busy mind accelerates the passage of subjective time.</li><li>If you don’t want the 100% swap with the person, there is no point in being jealous.</li><li>If you’re evenly split on a difficult decision, take the path more painful in the short term. Short term suffering, long time gain.</li></ul>

How to get peace of mind?

Getting rich is not just about luck; happiness is not just a trait we are born with. These aspirations may seem out of reach, but building wealth and being happy are skills we can learn. So what are these skills, and how do we learn them? What are the principles that should guide our efforts? What does progress really look like? Naval Ravikant is an entrepreneur, philosopher, and investor who has captivated the world with his principles for building wealth and creating long-term happiness. The Almanack of Naval Ravikant is a collection of Naval's wisdom and experience from the last ten years, shared as a curation of his most insightful interviews and poignant reflections. This isn't a how-to book, or a step-by-step gimmick. Instead, through Naval's own words, you will learn how to walk your own unique path toward a happier, wealthier life.

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

No More Mr. Nice Guy!

The Power of Now

How to Win Friends and Influence People

The Happy Mind

Arghadip Chakraborty