The more you practice self-care and the more you appreciate yourself, the easier it will be to recognize the best things about you.Trust me, there are so many beautiful things that you can offer, even if you don’t realize it yet.In other words, no matter where you are in your life right now, you can always learn to become better and to appreciate yourself for the person you are, and the person you have the potential to become.

Believe In Yourself When No One Else Does

If you are asking yourself how can one learn self-appreciation, I have the answer for you — by accepting your weaknesses, recognizing your strong sides, and working on obtaining a growth mindset.Accepting your weaknesses means accepting the person you were, and the person you are right now.Recognizing your strong sides means learning who you can become, and striving to become a better version of yourself.Obtaining a growth mindset means that you already appreciate yourself, and that you recognize your potential. Everything can be learned, and this is no exception to the rule.

Learn Self-Appreciation — No One Else Will Do It For You

Self-care is recognizing your needs, listening to your body and mind, and providing your soul with what it demands.However, by all means, start appreciating yourself, what you do, and who you are. Because no one else will do it for you.Self-appreciations leads to self-love, which then leads to acceptance.Once you accept yourself the way you are, your life will be much easier and you will feel accomplished.Only then you will be able to see your potential and to explore the opportunities life presents you with.

Practice Self-Care — Treat Yourself Like You’d Treat Someone You

Start appreciating the things you’ve achieved and everything that you’ve learned up until this moment.Life is not easy, so why complicate it even more by doubting yourself and your capabilities?Stay positive, give yourself some credit, and keep believing in yourself.You have so much to offer.

Don’t be too harsh on yourself

I was too harsh on myself, but once I learned self respect and appreciation for who I am, I started to healed, and the path to follow in my life was more clear.

The more you practice self-care and the more you appreciate yourself, the easier it will be to recognize the best things about you. In other words, no matter where you are in your life right now, you…

What most people don’t realize is that it’s often not actually the writing that is difficult. It’s the thinking behind the writing. “Writing is thinking. To write well is to think clearly. That's why it's so hard." - David McCullough Writing is essentially a robust tool that enables us to clarify and communicate our thoughts. While writing, you are forcing yourself to think critically and exercise parts of your brain that are typically on auto-pilot.  As Einstein once said, “If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough.”

Writing is Thinking

Learning to write is learning to think. This article goes over my writing process, focused on minimizing the activation energy to get started.

The art of writing, reading, and taking notes.
Improving your workflow, organization, digital brain.

Writing tips

Experts claim that the most successful people aren’t necessarily the most intelligent or best educated; they’re the most emotionally resilient. They don’t let negative emotions cloud their judgment. Instead, they acknowledge such feelings as being inevitable and take responsibility for their actions. They can step back from a situation and not allow their emotions to take over.

Do you know what makes people successful?

<ul><li>Everyone has to deal with negative emotions or experiences.</li><li>You can’t choose what happens to you, but you can choose how you respond.</li><li>Taking control of negative emotions isn’t the same as suppressing them.</li><li>“Emotionally resilient” people accept their emotions and take ownership of their actions. They use questions to develop better self-awareness.</li><li>They adopt “power postures” or poses to help strengthen them and defuse negativity.</li><li>Instead of reacting to a stimulus, they change their focus to shift the meaning of the stimulus to indicate a better outcome.</li><li>Emotionally resilient people change or mold their beliefs to control their emotions.</li><li>They ask challenging questions to improve themselves.</li><li>They learn to modify their “self-talk and inner movies” by adjusting the controls.</li><li>They rewire bad habits by modifying the “antecedent, behavior” and “consequence” (ABC) loop of events in their lives.</li></ul>

Take-aways

"...boils complex issues and ideas down to concise actionable material."~ Thomas Lindey "...a quick read that can have immediate and long term benefits. The exercises in chapter two are really good. The advice in chapters 3 and 4 is spot on. I'm going to share it with my three sons." ~ Phil Barth "Compared to the other self-help books, this one of the easiest books to follow and implement, from start to finish." ~ Alnoor Talwar MASTER THE ONE SKILL ALL PEAK PERFORMERS HAVE IN COMMON What is the one skill that the world's most successful leaders, athletes and business people have in common? And more importantly, how can you harness this skill to achieve greater success, fulfillment and well-being in your business and personal life? New research reveals that resilience - more than IQ - is a key factor in determining your success and well-being, at work as well as in your relationships. In fact, studies show that people with higher levels of resilience have higher productivity, better health, greater morale, higher job satisfaction and lower stress. DISCOVER 7 SCIENCE-BACKED TOOLS THAT MAKE THE DIFFERENCE WHEN IT COUNTS In this book, you will discover the 7 things resilient people do differently...and how to apply them in your own life so that you can: * Persevere through adversity. * Quickly bounce back from disappointments. * Break negative emotional patterns by taking control of your self-talk and inner movies. * Instantly shift your emotional state using the power of physiology. * Create greater drive and ambition by mastering the use of self-directed questions. * Supercharge your energy levels at a moment's notice. * Experience even greater excitement, passion, happiness and fulfillment in every area of your life. Using the 7 habits of resilient people discussed in this book, you will be able to handle the vulnerabilities of intimate relationships, the risks and failures of business and the ups and downs of life. RAVE REVIEWS FROM READERS "...a great book if you're looking to master your emotions, become more resilient, flexible, and ultimately successful..." ~ M. Sean Marshall "I'll definitely be reading this book again, because I spent the whole time analyzing my own thoughts and reactions and found a great deal to work on." ~ Rebecca Vickers "[Akash] has knocked it out of the park... A great read full of examples...Highly recommended." ~ Jamie Hill Just one idea in this book might be the what you need. Ready to get stared? Then take advantage of this limited-time introductory pricing, scroll up and click the BUY NOW button to grab your copy...

Psychology 

Emotional Habits

Procrastination manifests from a failure to regulate negative emotions. This is your brain’s coping mechanism to protect you from a perceived threat in the present.  Maybe you’re feeling anxious, bored, frustrated, resentful, or insecure about a pressing task, so you avoid confronting those negative emotions by, say, doing some housework instead.

Procrastination is an emotion regulation problem, not a time management problem

Chronic sufferers engage in this irrational habit, fully aware of its harmful effects, even though postponing their to-do lists compounds the problem. Nevertheless, the mind latches onto the short-term relief that procrastination offers. That fleeting but addictive relief can feel rewarding, prompting the brain to search for a further release and triggering a negative, sometimes chronic, cycle of procrastination that is difficult to break.

Procrastination is a self-destructive tendency

When confronted with an undesirable situation, the brain’s amygdala perceives a genuine threat and urges you to avoid that threat.

Humans evolved the ability to procrastinate as a self-preservation technique

Chronic sufferers frequently experience high blood pressure, depression, anxiety, stress, heart disease, and less satisfaction with life.

Procrastination is damaging your health

Since the crux of the issue is a problem with emotional regulation and not with productivity, the latest time management apps and gadgets won’t cure your proclivity to postpone critical work. A better tactic is the related practice of self-compassion which is treating ourselves with kindness and understanding in the face of our mistakes and failures. Engaging in self-compassion by taking ownership of your shortcomings can foster self-esteem, optimism, curiosity, and other positive feelings from within.

Productivity apps are not the answer

<ul><li>Cultivate curiosity. If you’re feeling tempted to procrastinate, bring your attention to the sensations arising in your mind and body. To overcome your tendency to procrastinate, focus on the feelings in your brain and body that trigger your habit (awareness).</li><li>Consider the next action. This is different than the age-old advice to break up a task you’re tempted to avoid into bite-sized chunks. Focusing only on the “next action” helps calm our nerves.</li><li>Make your temptations more inconvenient. If you let social media distract you, remove those tempting apps.</li></ul>

Recommendations to deal with procrastination

If procrastination isn’t about laziness, then what is it about?

Why You Procrastinate (It Has Nothing to Do With Self-Control)

Immediately after every lecture, meeting, or any significant experience, take 30 seconds -- no more, no less -- to write down the most important points.I’ve been trying it out for a few months. Here’s what I’ve found so far:It’s not note-taking: This exercise is an act of interpretation, prioritization, and decision-making.It’s hard work: Deciding what’s most important is exhausting.You learn to listen better and ask better questions. It changes the way you pay attention, whether listening to a talk or participating in a discussion.You're able to help others more. Much of what makes the 30-second cut are observations about what matters to other people.

If you only do one thing, do this

Immediately after every lecture, meeting, or any significant experience, take 30 seconds -- no more, no less -- to write down the most important points.

The 30 Second Habit That Can Have a Big Impact On Your Life

<ol><li>Stress + Rest = Growth. Decades of <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11828249?dopt=Abstract">research</a> in exercise science show that this is how you get stronger and faster, and the latest <a href="https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/abca/8265a420f9b2cf03c9768249b2f1d4d862a2.pdf">cognitive science</a> shows that this is also how you get <a href="https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/abca/8265a420f9b2cf03c9768249b2f1d4d862a2.pdf">smarter</a> and <a href="http://www.annualreviews.org/doi/10.1146/annurev-psych-010814-015331">more creative</a>.</li><li>Focus on the Process, Not Results. <a class="idea-content-link" href="https://selfdeterminationtheory.org/SDT/documents/2004_BaardDeciRyan.pdf">Research </a>shows that concentrating on the process is best for both performance and mental health. </li><li>Stay Humble. If you don’t maintain an open mind, you’ll severely limit your opportunities to learn and make progress.</li><li>Build Your Tribe. A large and growing body of behavioral science <a class="idea-content-link" href="https://behaviormodel.org/">research </a>shows that motivation (or lack thereof) is contagious.</li></ol>

Part I

<ol><li>Take Small, Consistent Steps to Achieve Big Gains. Small and consistent victories compound over time, leading to massive gains.</li><li>Make the Hard Thing Easier. Willpower is overrated. Rather than relying completely on self-control, intentionally design your environment to make the hard thing easier. </li><li>Remember to Experience Joy. People are so driven to keep growing and progressing that sometimes they forget to be fully present for special moments or neglect to pause and celebrate their milestones.</li></ol>

Part II

The most important principles to grow your body and mind.

Better thinking, habits, growth mindset, decision making, bias, problem solving, and communication.

Self Improvement

The most important principles to grow your body and mind

Some work will, of course, be specialized. But in a labor market that is more automated, digital, and dynamic, all citizens will benefit from having a set of foundational skills that help them fulfill the following three criteria, no matter the sector in which they work or their occupation:<ol><li>Add value beyond what can be done by automated systems and intelligent machines</li><li>Operate in a digital environment</li><li>Continually adapt to new ways of working and new occupations</li></ol>

Defining foundational skills for citizens

Future, apps, code, data, tech skills, AI, machine learning 

Technology

Defining the skills citizens will need in the future world of work

<ul><li>"Soldier Mindset" or "motivated reasoning." It's this phenomenon in which our unconscious motivations, our desires, and fears, shape the way we interpret information. Some information, some ideas, feel like our allies. We want to wind and defend them. Other information or ideas are the enemies.</li><li>"Scout Mindset." It's the drive not to make one idea win or another lose, but just to see what's really there as honestly and accurately as you can, even if it's not convenient or pleasant. </li></ul>

Soldier Mindset vs Scout Mindset

The answer is emotional. The soldier mindset is rooted in emotions like defensiveness or tribalism, the scout mindset is, too. It's just rooted in different emotions. For example, scouts are curious. They're more likely to say they feel pleasure when they learn new information. They're more likely to feel intrigued when they encounter something that contradicts their expectations. Scouts have different values. They're more likely to say they think it's virtuous to test your own beliefs, and they're less likely to say that someone who changes his mind seems weak.

Why are some people able to cut through their own motivations and just try to see the facts as objectively as they can?

We need to learn how to feel proud instead of ashamed when we notice we might have been wrong about something. We need to learn how to feel intrigued instead of defensive when we encounter some information that contradicts our beliefs.So the question I want to leave you with is: Do you yearn to defend your own beliefs? Or do you yearn to see the world as clearly as you possibly can?

To improve our judgment we need to change the way we feel.

TED Talk Subtitles and Transcript: Perspective is everything, especially when it comes to examining your beliefs. Are you a soldier, prone to defending your viewpoint at all costs -- or a scout, spurred by curiosity? Julia Galef examines the motivations behind these two mindsets and how they shape the way we interpret information, interweaved with a compelling history lesson from 19th-century France. When your steadfast opinions are tested, Galef asks: "What do you most yearn for? Do you yearn to defend your own beliefs or do you yearn to see the world as clearly as you possibly can?"

Why do you think you're right? It's all about which mindset you're in.

<ul><li>Relegating all data knowledge to a handful of people within a company is problematic on many levels. It’s hard for them to communicate their findings to colleagues who lack basic data literacy.</li><li>Airbnb, a huge believer in the democratization of data science, strives to empower every team member to make data-driven decisions. To ensure that, the company created its own Data University.</li><li>Smart companies today ensure that many of their employees can speak the language of data and use it to improve work outcomes.</li></ul>

Data science isn’t just for data scientists anymore

Despite the explosion of interest in big data, many organizations continue to relegate data-science knowledge to a small number of employees. That’s a mistake, it’s unsustainable. Very few companies expect only professional writers to know how to write. Companies that want to compete in the age of data need to do three things: share data tools, spread data skills, and spread data responsibility.

Data literacy is necessary to make data-driven decisions

All your employees need to understand the basics of analyzing data.

The Democratization of Data Science

We tend to believe our habits are a product of our motivation, talent, and effort. Certainly, these qualities matter. But the surprising thing is, especially over a long time period, your personal characteristics tend to get overpowered by your environment.

Environment is the invisible hand that shapes human behavior. 

<ul><li>Automate good decisions. Whenever possible, design an environment that makes good decisions for you. For example, buying smaller plates can help you lose weight by deciding portion size for you. </li><li>Subtract the negative influences. You can make it easier to avoid unhealthy foods by storing them in less visible places. (Foods that are placed at eye level tend to be purchased and eaten more frequently.)</li></ul>

How to Design a Better Environment

What often looks like a lack of willpower is actually the result of a poor environment. Life is a game and if you want to guarantee better results over a sustained period of time, the best approach is to play the game in an environment that favors you.

Winners often win because their environment makes winning easier

If you examine how human behavior has been shaped over time, you discover the power of environment to shape our habits and behavior.

Believe In Yourself When No One Else Does

Writing is Thinking

Emotional Habits

Why You Procrastinate (It Has Nothing to Do With Self-Control)

The 30 Second Habit That Can Have a Big Impact On Your Life

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