Stop Listening To People

Even people with the best intentions are influenced by their own desires. They want you to be happy and successful, but in a way that fits their own definition of those terms.

And that definition may not match your own.

When people offer you advice, they base it on what they would do if faced with a similar dilemma.

But what they would do is based on who they are, not who you are. Their intentions may be pure, but the reasoning is often mismatched.

Not always. Not often. But sometimes.

It’s not pretty, but jealousy exists and it clouds the advice you get from certain people about certain situations.

Just because somebody loves you, it doesn’t mean they love ALL of you.

They may want to change something about you and that bias colors the advice they give you. But the thing they want to change about you may be a thing you love about yourself.

Other people may love you so much the way you are that they fear certain decisions you make will change you and that those changes could impact your relationship with them.

But it’s usually in your best interest to change, to evolve into more of the person you want to become and the life you want to have.

Ultimately, it comes down to this. You are the expert on you.

Nobody can know what’s best for you better than you can so trust your instincts, stop listening to other people, and own your own decisions.

You’ll be glad you did.