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The Most Important Question of Your Life

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The Most Important Question of Your Life
Everyone would like that - it's easy to like that. If I ask you, "What do you want out of life?" and you say something like, "I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like," it's so ubiquitous that it doesn't even mean anything.

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Happiness and struggle

Happiness and struggle
Consider the question: What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out. Happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative. You can only avoid negative experiences for so long before they come roaring back to life.

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