How To Know Who Your Friends Are | Jordan B. Peterson

Toxic friendships can have the opposite effect. Because you are more likely to adopt the habits of your peers, unhealthy or mentally ill friends can negatively impact your health.

The risk for depression, suicide, obesity, smoking, and substance abuse drastically increases when people spend time around friends who are depressed/suicidal, overweight, smokers, or abusing substances.

In our daily, we can see so many examples of these people.

You Can tell them Bad News, they’ll listen.

They won’t tell you why you’re stupid and why that bad thing happened to you.

How something worse happened to them once, derailing the whole conversation.

You can actually tell them the bad news and they'll listen. So that’s a good thing.

And then, there’s a weirder thing. You can tell them good news & they will help you celebrate & that’s a really good way of deciding who you should have around you.

If you have someone around you, something good happens to you and you’re kind of afraid to even admit it because god, something good happen to you, it’s like you let THAT known and it’ll certainly be taken away.

So, you come out and you sort of tell someone Half-heartedly that something good happened to you and, they give you a Whack and then talk about the great thing that happened to them 3 years ago, or Worse, the great thing that happened to someone that they knew 3 years ago. GO away from that person. They’re not helpful to you. They are not helpful to themselves either.

You got to surround yourself with people who want the best for the best part of you.

OR,

You can hang around with weasels and losers.

They are trying to pull you down to justify the fact that they’re spiraling downhill as well. And you know, the upside of that is you don’t have all the responsibility. 

You can all whine about how wretched life is, so that’s pretty attractive but it’s also a bad medium for a long-term plan.

It's acceptable and desirable to try to surround yourself with people who are facilitating your development.

You have felt ” I've got people around, to know them well they're not doing that well and they don't fit into that category “, here what's your point, what are you going to do with it exactly, if they'll cooperate with you and move towards a better future.

If they don't pay any attention and they keep doing the same damn things over and over and they're not going anywhere and it's painful then maybe the proper thing to do is say " You just have your misery I'll go off and have my life and maybe you'll wake up at some point in the future and think that's a better way. "

You have both the right and the responsibility to surround yourself with people who are good for the best part of you.

Having 5000 friends on social and not 5 friends in real life might be a demerit of this modern world. 

But you can make them, and once getting someone with whom your vibe matches, always stay nearby them, not physically but truthfully.

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