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How to Decode Other People's Body Language Accurately

How to Decode Other People's Body Language Accurately
If you’ve ever had déjà vu, or a strong intuition about a person or something that was going to happen, then you’ve heard your unconscious mind trying to get in touch with you.


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Gestures: A Warning System

Gestures: A Warning System

Gestures act as an early warning system for intent, emotion, and mood. Our body language precedes the desire of our conscious minds. Our bodies know what we want before our conscious minds do.

So it's useful to watch others' body language to know what they're thinking, desiring, and feeling. In turn, we have to learn to listen to our unconscious mind. It's telling you that you're hungry, angry, bored, happy, and content.



How to Use Your Intuition

If you've had the experience of a strong intuition about a person, or déjà vu, or a sensation in your gut that things are not right, even though on the surface it seems fine, then you've heard your unconscious mind trying to tell you something.

Learn to regularly pay attention to your unconscious mind, not just in moments when something feels amiss. With practice, your ability to hear your unconscious quickly and accurately will improve.



What Self-Reflection Is

What Self-Reflection Is

Is the process of thinking back on previous events and interpreting them through your experience. 

It’s about taking a step back and reflecting on your life, behavior and beliefs....

The Importance of Self-Reflection

  • It improve self-awareness.
  • It allows you to understand and see things from a different point of view. 
  • It allows you to respond, not react.
  • It facilitates a deeper level of learning.
  • It improves confidence.
  • It makes you challenge your assumptions.

The Process of Self-Reflection

  • STOP: Take a step back from life or a particular situation.
  • LOOK: Identify and get perspective on what you notice and see.
  • LISTEN: Listen to your inner guide, the innate wisdom that bubbles up when you give it time and space to emerge.
  • ACT: Identify the steps you need to take moving forward to adjust, change or improve.

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Tackling Difficult Tasks

Tackling Difficult Tasks

Faced with a mind-numbing, overwhelming destroyer-of-time task, you may have a feeling there is a better way. You just haven't found it yet.

Long-winded tasks are often accompanied by ...

How To Complete That Never-Ending Task

  • First, accept that you will not be the first person to face this problem. You just need to find the people who have already noted the ways you can solve it. Doing so will help you overcome the fear of the the blank page.
  • Then you need to persevere in your research strategy. Start by googling the most generic description of your overall task, then work your way down to the specifics.

“Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity”

Robert J Hanlon

Hanlon’s Razor Explained

  • We tend to associate completely disconnected events in a unique way, fitting them into our ‘story’, the narratives we build to create our distorted version of reality.
  • The patterns we think exist may not actually do so, but that does not stop us from assuming negative intent or malice in all that happens around us.
  • We need to realize that the world does not revolve around us and try to approach situations and events in a neutral, objective manner.

The Way To Apply Hanlon’s Razor

The basic rules that we need to apply:

  1. Move from assuming bad intentions towards exploring other causes.
  2. Engage in active communication.
  3. Embrace opportunities.
  4. Stay positive and driven.
  5. Stop blaming and focus on creative problem-solving.
  6. Assume a neutral, unbiased position.

Hanlon’s razor is a potent mental model which can be used in any situation where our first instinct is a negative assumption. Any wrong hypothesis related to the bad intentions of others is counterproductive and can play havoc in our lives.