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Asking For Help Reveals Strength, Not Weakness
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The Effects Of Not Asking For Help
When you don’t ask for help when you need it, you assume all the burden that might easily (and gladly) be shared. But you also deprive those who’d love to assist you of the opportunity to do so.
Fear gets the better of us while depriving others of a chance to show they care and share their gifts.
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The Effects Of Asking For Help
Asking for help can aid us when times are tough and can give others the opportunity to make a difference while helping them feel more comfortable to ask for help themselves.
Asking for help ultimately opens up opportunities for the betterment of both parties and brings people closer.
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Your lack of courage may cost you
Our brains are wired to:
- Discount the cost of inaction,
- Overestimate the probability of things going wrong and
- Underestimate ourselves.
Three big obstacles
... help people get unstuck when building their bravery:
- Appreciating why stepping outside their comfort zone is so important to begin with (i.e. No clear or compelling why).
- Setting the intention to consciously and consistently practice acts of courage.
- Knowing which acts of courage to start with – after all, being brave isn’t always predictable or straight forward.
Bravery habits
- Speaking Up: Every act of courage is about laying something you value on the line for something you value even more. Speaking bravely takes no less.
- Making Big Requests: If you don’t ask, the answer will always be no.
- Confronting Long Held Fears: Most people suffer more from their imagination than they ever do reality.
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Asking For Help
Not wanting to seem weak, needy, and incompetent or like we’re taking advantage often keeps us from asking for help, but that’s often an overblown fear caused by our tendency to think the worst....
Seeking Help Is Strength
By taking an active step in seeking help or advice, you’re actually taking control of your life, and not letting external circumstances (such as what people think) affect how you behave and perform. It is courageous to accept your weaknesses.
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Altruistic behaviours promote wellbeing
Formal volunteering, monetary donations and random acts of everyday kindness promote wellbeing and longevity.
- Studies show that volunteering correlates with a 24% lower risk ...
Focusing on others is really good for you
It is not surprising that kindness and altruism should impact our physical wellbeing. People are immensely social. When we are interconnected and are truly useful to others, it influences our wellbeing.
During the first half of 2020, Britons donated £800m more to charity, half of Americans have recently checked on their elderly or sick neighbours. Americans and Australians left teddybears in their windows to cheer up children. A French florist placed 400 bouquets on cars of hospital staff.
When empathy doesn’t come naturally to you
A third of how empathetic we are is down to our genes. But it does not mean people born with low empathy are lost.
No matter where we start, we can all improve in empathy.
- Try to look at the world from another person's perspective for a moment each day.
- Practice mindfulness and loving-kindness meditation.
- During lockdown, take care of pets or read emotionally-charged books.