5 Tips To Help You Read The Room Like A Pro - Deepstash

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You walk into a conference room, dinner party, or group of playground parents and make a comment that immediately shifts the ballast of the conversation. Eyes dart at you. Their message is clear: Dude, read the room. But you’ve already said or done something out of sync with what’s appropriate in the moment.

It happens. But it’s avoidable.

Here’s how to improve:


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1. Get Comfortable With Silence

Reading the room is about listening, or more precisely shutting up and listening. If you’re talking, you’re not gathering.

You want to practice, and like with a recipe or golf swing, you can get better if you invest the time. Find a partner who’s willing and will provide honest feedback. The immediate kind especially helps. When it’s positive, you’re more likely to repeat the behavior. When it’s negative, you’re less likely.


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2. Tune Into Body Language

Look at how people’s shoulders are angled. Then notice where their chests are pointing. You also want to notice people’s expressions as you listen to what they’re talking about, keying in on the paraverbals — the cadence, tone, volume, pace. You put it all together and you’ll be able to tell tell whether someone’s response of “great” to “how’s it going?” is genuine, happy, sarcastic, or something else.

“It’s not the words themselves, but how they’re saying them."


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3. Listen To What People Are Saying

If you’ve mastered the basics, try to decipher what people aren’t saying, because people are usually holding something back or couching their terms. It will give you further insight.


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4. Notice Your Environment

Pay attention to the acoustics and size. Pay attention to the setting and atmosphere — are things casual, or more formal?

You might know everyone there, and they might be people with whom you usually talk sports and use salty language. But this might not be the setting for that, and engaging in your usual dynamic can up people’s insecurities.

“Let the room dictate it, not the relationship."


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5. Keep Your Eyes On The Prize

When you’re reading a room, you’re not looking to be a perpetual observer. The goal is to observe and then engage. It’s more about slowing down your pace, assessing and eventually responding, not with mirroring but calibration.

If the tone is sad, you don’t have to become sad. You just don’t have to tell jokes or talk business.


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Reading the room is about seeing and hearing what’s both spoken and unspoken. And it’s a skill well worth mastering.


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