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BRUCE D. PERRY

It’s interesting-most people think about therapy as something that involves going in and undoing what’s happened. But whatever your past experiences created in your brain, the associations exist and you can’t just delete them. You can’t get rid of the past.

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OPRAH WINFREY

So I’m not crazy? No. Your brain is doing exactly what you would expect it to do considering what you lived through.

OPRAH WINFREY

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BRUCE D. PERRY

You can’t give what you don’t get. If no one ever spoke to you, you can’t speak; if you have never been loved, you can’t be loving.

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The Pillars of Traditional Healing

The Pillars of Traditional Healing

The pillars of traditional healing were

1) connection to clan and the natural world;

2) regulating rhythm through dance, drumming, and song;

3) a set of beliefs, values, and stories that brought meaning to even senseless, random trauma;

4) on occasion, natural hallucinogens or other plant-derived substances used to facilitate healing with the guidance of a healer or elder.

It is not surprising that today’s best practices in trauma treatment are basically versions of these four things.

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“Your past is not an excuse.”

“Your past is not an excuse.”

This is true. Your past is not an excuse. But it is an explanation—offering insight into the questions so many of us ask ourselves:

Why do I behave the way I behave? Why do I feel the way I do?

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OPRAH WINFREY

Very often, “what happened” takes years to reveal itself. It takes courage to confront our actions, peel back the layers of trauma in our lives, and expose the raw truth of our past. But this is where healing begins.

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What Does Trauma Do To Us?

What Does Trauma Do To Us?

Trauma leaves your shipwrecked. You are left to rebuild your inner world. Part of the rebuilding, the healing process, is revisiting the shattered hull of your old worldview; you sift through the wreckage looking for what remains, seeking your broken pieces…as you revisit the ship-wreck, piece by piece, you find a fragment and move it to your new, safer place in the now-altered landscape. You build a new worldview. That takes time. And many visits to the wreckage.

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BRUCE D. PERRY

What happened to you as an infant has a profound impact on this capacity to love and be loved.

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BRUCE D. PERRY

Stress is not something to be afraid of or avoided. It is the controllability, pattern, and intensity of stress that can cause problems.

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<p>In the wake of trauma, the ...

In the wake of trauma, the hardest thing to understand is that nothing and no one can take away the pain. And yet that’s exactly what we desperately want to do-because we are social creatures, subject to emotional contagion, and when we’re around people who are hurting, we hurt too. We don’t want to hurt. It is hard to sit in the midst of ruined lives and not feel the misery. It helps us regulate to try to undo or negate-to look away from others’ pain. So we make our arbitrary assumptions about people’s innate resilience. 

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BRUCE D. PERRY

We can help each other heal, but often assumptions about resilience and grit blind us to the healing that leads us down the painful path to wisdom.

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BRUCE D. PERRY

Your connectedness to other people is so key to buffering any current stressor—and to healing from past trauma. Being with people who are present, supportive, and nurturing. Belonging.

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Balance is the core of health. We feel and function best when our body’s systems are in balance, and when we’re in balance with friends, family, community, and nature.

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CURATOR'S NOTE

"Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives." -Oprah Winfrey

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