The most important thing in the self-improvement journey is how we pick up ourselves when we stumble along the way. Because no matter how clear we are with our goals, how motivated we are to achieve our goals, at some point, we will stumble. This is where the life of consistency lies.&nbsp;

Why do we need self-compassion to improve ourselves?

To cultivate self-compassion, you only need to start being nice to yourself. When you stumble, since we don’t have other people who pick us up, learn to pick yourself up, accept your failure, and forgive yourself. Be your life mentor.

How to Cultivate Self-compassion?

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</div><figure><img width="450" height="389" src="https://yourmindbuddy.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/bruce-mars-AndE50aaHn4-unsplash-1024x886.jpg" alt="A happy man." srcset="https://yourmindbuddy.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/bruce-mars-AndE50aaHn4-unsplash-1024x886.jpg 1024w, https://yourmindbuddy.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/bruce-mars-AndE50aaHn4-unsplash-300x259.jpg 300w, https://yourmindbuddy.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/bruce-mars-AndE50aaHn4-unsplash-768x664.jpg 768w, https://yourmindbuddy.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/bruce-mars-AndE50aaHn4-unsplash-1536x1329.jpg 1536w, https://yourmindbuddy.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/bruce-mars-AndE50aaHn4-unsplash-2048x1771.jpg 2048w, https://yourmindbuddy.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/bruce-mars-AndE50aaHn4-unsplash-600x519.jpg 600w, https://yourmindbuddy.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/bruce-mars-AndE50aaHn4-unsplash-750x649.jpg 750w"><figcaption dir="ltr">Photo by&nbsp;<a href="https://unsplash.com/@brucemars?utm_source=unsplash&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_content=creditCopyText" dir="ltr">bruce mars</a>&nbsp;on&nbsp;<a href="https://unsplash.com/s/photos/happiness?utm_source=unsplash&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_content=creditCopyText" dir="ltr">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure>There are many articles out there that talk about self-improvement. Most of them are very motivating, that while reading them, you will immediately feel the excitement to start the steps in improving yourself.<h2>The common things they talk about self-improvement.</h2>Most of the self-improvement articles will tell you to exercise, eat well, change your habit, learn new skills, and to be consistent about it. I know these things are not new to you, and I believe you’ve already tried them.But there’s something that I want to tell you, the more I read them, the more I realized that these things that they are talking about are not the key, rather just a guide on how you can craft your self-improvement goals. We can do all the things that they advise, but we can’t be consistent without one thing – self-compassion.<h2>Why do we need self-compassion to improve ourselves?</h2>They said that the most important thing in self-improvement is consistency, but don’t forget that the biggest enemy of consistency is ourselves. Without a solid sense of self-worth, all your techniques, skills, and intellectual powers will become useless.The most important thing in the self-improvement journey is how we pick up ourselves when we stumble along the way. Because no matter how clear we are with our goals, how motivated we are to achieve our goals, at some point, we will stumble. This is the most critical point in this journey. This is where the life of consistency lies.&nbsp;Some are lucky enough to be surrounded by good people who help them grow and succeed. They are still accepted despite their failures. They are simultaneously challenged and encouraged to pick themselves up and continue, which pushes them forward towards their goals and desires.&nbsp;While some are lucky enough, many of us don’t have these kinds of people in our lives, and we are not taught to be compassionate with ourselves in our difficulties. Instead, we are taught the opposite, to be tough on ourselves.<h2>Cultivate self-compassion and turn your inner self to be your life mentor.</h2>Being tough on ourselves is an unhealthy habit. It’s a way of <a href="https://yourmindbuddy.com/motivation/how-our-subconscious-mind-is-sabotaging-our-goals/" dir="ltr">sabotaging our success</a>. This causes us to form unrealistic or inaccurate self-talk that leads to unnecessary negative emotions and moods.&nbsp;Cheating on your diet for example. Eating 5 cups of rice is not the problem, it’s the self-criticism, guilt-tripping, and harsh-talking you do to yourself after you cheat on your diet.As I’ve mentioned, the biggest enemy of consistency is ourselves. It’s about how we berate ourselves during difficulties and setbacks by judging and throwing harsh words to ourselves. We fail because we keep convincing ourselves that we are failures.<BLOCKQUOTE>When you are compassionate with yourself, you trust in your soul, which you let guide your life. Your soul knows the geography of your destiny better than you do.<cite>John O’Donohue</cite></BLOCKQUOTE>To cultivate self-compassion, you only need to start being nice to yourself. When you stumble, since we don’t have other people who pick us up, learn to pick yourself up, accept your failure, and forgive yourself. Be your life mentor.

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There are many articles out there that talk about self-improvement. Most of them are very motivating, that while reading them, you will immediately feel the excitement to start the steps in improving yourself.

The common things they talk about self-improvement.

Most of the self-improvement articles will tell you to exercise, eat well, change your habit, learn new skills, and to be consistent about it. I know these things are not new to you, and I believe you’ve already tried them.

But there’s something that I want to tell you, the more I read them, the more I realized that these things that they are talking about are not the key, rather just a guide on how you can craft your self-improvement goals. We can do all the things that they advise, but we can’t be consistent without one thing – self-compassion .

They said that the most important thing in self-improvement is consistency, but don’t forget that the biggest enemy of consistency is ourselves. Without a solid sense of self-worth, all your techniques, skills, and intellectual powers will become useless.

The most important thing in the self-improvement journey is how we pick up ourselves when we stumble along the way. Because no matter how clear we are with our goals, how motivated we are to achieve our goals, at some point, we will stumble. This is the most critical point in this journey. This is where the life of consistency lies.

Some are lucky enough to be surrounded by good people who help them grow and succeed. They are still accepted despite their failures. They are simultaneously challenged and encouraged to pick themselves up and continue, which pushes them forward towards their goals and desires.

While some are lucky enough, many of us don’t have these kinds of people in our lives, and we are not taught to be compassionate with ourselves in our difficulties. Instead, we are taught the opposite, to be tough on ourselves.

Cultivate self-compassion and turn your inner self to be your life mentor.

Being tough on ourselves is an unhealthy habit. It’s a way of <a href="https://yourmindbuddy.com/motivation/how-our-subconscious-mind-is-sabotaging-our-goals/">sabotaging our success </a>. This causes us to form unrealistic or inaccurate self-talk that leads to unnecessary negative emotions and moods.

Cheating on your diet for example. Eating 5 cups of rice is not the problem, it’s the self-criticism, guilt-tripping, and harsh-talking you do to yourself after you cheat on your diet.

As I’ve mentioned, the biggest enemy of consistency is ourselves. It’s about how we berate ourselves during difficulties and setbacks by judging and throwing harsh words to ourselves. We fail because we keep convincing ourselves that we are failures.

When you are compassionate with yourself, you trust in your soul, which you let guide your life. Your soul knows the geography of your destiny better than you do.

To cultivate self-compassion, you only need to start being nice to yourself. When you stumble, since we don’t have other people who pick us up, learn to pick yourself up, accept your failure, and forgive yourself. Be your life mentor.

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