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The Silent Treatment: A Tactic of Abuse and Control
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The Silent Treatment
In a relationship, a partner uses ‘the silent treatment’ on the other to make them feel hurt, punished and alienated, manipulating their emotions.
Being isolated or ghosted by a partner is a sort of abuse that hurts more than being yelled or shouted at.
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Applying The Silent Treatment To A Partner
Stone-cold silence is often accompanied by total denial over any problem, which further infuriates the other person.
Sometimes the silent treatment is a ‘mild’ one where the person emotionally cuts off from the partner but is not totally silent.
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How To Respond To The Silent Treatment
- Don’t Isolate: Maintain healthy relationships with family and friends to avoid feelings of loneliness.
- Hobbies: Engage in reading books or doing art, which can help us stay stable and strong, and can act as an outlet for our feelings.
- Don’t Be A Victim Of Percepticide: Do not allow your opinions, desires and wants to be erased or sidelined.
- See A Therapist: Seek professional help if needed.
- Decide How Much You Can Take: See a domestic violence expert if things are beyond your limits.
- End The Relation: If facing hostility and cruelty, seek to end the relationship and set yourself free.
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E-mail rudeness is a pervasive problem
Studies show that more than ninety percent of professionals surveyed admitted that they had experienced disrespectful e-mails at work.
Rude e-mails are on the rise. The e-mail may ...
The derogatory or condescending e-mail
Electronic communication is efficient, but it's detached. Sitting at a computer screen, the need for tact and a respectful tone disappears.
- Being on the receiving end of such impoliteness can create lingering stress and negative emotions. The recipient may find it harder to stay engaged at work. The stress associated with e-mail rudeness can spill over into family life and, like a chain reaction, can send stress signals to other people.
- A subtler form of aggression is failing to reply to a request, in effect giving others the "silent treatment." Not responding to an email leaves people hanging and struggling with uncertainty.
Remember your netiquette
With remote work on the rise, the use of electronic communication has allowed incivility to thrive.
- To mitigate the stress, managers need to set clear and reasonable e-mail expectations. Organizations should create meaningful opportunities for employees to build good working relationships.
- For employees, the best option to cope is to unplug from work after-hours.
- Regardless of your level of stress, remember the rules of netiquette. Spend time composing your e-mail and notice inconsiderate expressions. Acknowledge a request and let your co-workers know when you will get back to them. Perhaps keep caps lock off.
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Becoming A Source Of Sincere Support
- Many of the admired people in our lives generally were not the ones that provided us with all the solutions or solved all our problems.
- Sincere, silent support, like active listeni...
Show Respect
Becoming truly who we are is the greatest privilege that life gives us. The people who let you blossom are the ones that need appreciation, kindness and respect.
Do not bully or victimize anyone for being different than the majority. Be the person that helps others give their fullest potential.
Lead With Truth
Being trustworthy and truthful isn’t something that really resonates nowadays, but is nonetheless the foundation of all relationships and healthy communication.
If we are concealing facts, covering up, withholding the truth, or are selective in our honesty, we see the consequences in no time.