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Eight Reasons Why It's So Hard To Really Change Your Behavior

Eight Reasons Why It's So Hard To Really Change Your Behavior

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Motivated By Positive Emotions

Negative emotions may trigger us to think about everything we’re not doing, or feel like we’re doing wrong, but they're ineffective for making changes that stick. Real change needs a positive platform to launch from; we need positive, self-edifying reasons for taking on the challenge.

Trapped By Thinking Fallacies

Feeling overwhelmed by trying to change a behavior often makes us charge into change, and see failure as a sign of incapacity. But this straps us into a no-win situation because you are unlikely to sustain the initial momentum to change for long.

If we really want to change, one of ...

More Than We Can Handle

It’s almost never possible to tackle all of a change at once. We have to start with particular, very specific and measurable actions.

Each specific action is one forkful of behavior change and a set of those actions engaged over time results in a cumulative change. And accompa...

Neglecting The Tools

We must be somewhat knowledgeable about what we need to change in order to come up with and set up a practical plan that will lead to sustained change. Some of the knowledge and tools necessary will be specific to us, others universal, but without putting the effort we won’t find either.

Try Too Much

Trying to take on multiple behaviors at once is a surefire way to send all of them into a ditch. The resources we rely on to make change happen are limited: attention, self-control, motivation, etc.

But other areas of our lives also use those resources, so even just one additional...

Underestimating The Process

Change is never just one thing, it’s a lot of connected things, and sustained change doesn’t happen without a process that wraps in all of the pieces.

Long-term behavior change involves steps. It’s a tough, process-oriented challenge to slowly change the behavior and believing otherwise ...

Failure Is Common

Failing is part of the process, and it’s probably going to happen more than once. Failing reveals to you what deserves your attention and energy in the next round.

See failing as a step, not the end or an excuse to stop trying.

Making Commitments

Behavior change research tells us that not making a commitment leads to failure.

We need a "commitment device" that firmly establishes what we're going to do and how we're going to do it. Everything else starts there.

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