What Happens When You Tell Your Story and I Tell Mine?

Although similar, perspective-taking is not the same as empathy. Empathy falls short in trying to reduce polarization. In fact, empathy appeared to make things worse.

We tend to feel empathy more towards people like us, that we can relate to. If an outgroup attacks an ingroup, the empathic concern doesn't help.

Empathic concern is an emotional form of empathy, which is based on our gut responses.

Perspective-taking is consciously and intellectually taking the viewpoint of our opponents, even if they have no emotional warmth towards us. The goal is to understand why they feel the way they do.

Many conflicts take place across international borders. To see the situation from the point of view of adversaries, both perspective taking and perspective giving should be present.

Research suggests that perspective giving is more valuable for minority or marginalized groups, while perspective taking is more valuable for the majority or dominant groups.