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Discontentment Is A Disease

Discontentment Is A Disease
  • Many of us feel something is missing, and are unable to find satisfaction with our lives.
  • Even people who apparently have everything, a great house, a loving family and every imaginable comfort are discontent.
  • We can help ourselves feel better by changing our attitude and perspective, taking affirmative action, or by finding meaning in our lives.

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Changing One’s Attitude And Perspective

We can change how we look at things, by these obvious but important methods:

  1. Appreciating what we have, paying gratitude for what is there already in our lives.
  2. Trying to find something good in everything that happens, good or bad.
  3. Believing in yourself that you can make things better.
  4. Enjoying every moment of life, experiencing joy in every mundane activity.

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Taking Positive Action

Affirmative action, even if it is little, is a great start.

  1. Even a little exercise every day, a walk or stretching exercises, can help us feel awesome.
  2. Decluttering of even a small corner of your room or a tabletop can make you feel great.
  3. Waking up early and meditating is a great way to get better mentally.

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Finding Meaning

We are not satisfied with life because mindless consumerism and transaction-based relationships do not provide us with meaning. We can change that by:

  1. Spending time with our family and friends, listening to what they say.
  2. Volunteer for anything that is your liking, as giving time, energy or resources is a worthwhile effort.
  3. Create something by writing, drawing, playing music, building something or designing.
  4. Make others happy by helping out, or make someone’s day by buying them gifts.

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Thomas Paine

"The greatest remedy for anger is delay."

Thomas Paine

Postponing Things With Little Value

We often have an urge to do things that have no productive value, but we still do them due to the forces of habit or when we cannot say no to others.An effective way to deal with such tasks is to delay them.

Whether it is snacking, playing a video game, browsing videos, or even smoking, one can delay the desire for doing the activity by keeping oneself intentionally busy.

Listen To Understand

While listening to others speak, a million thoughts come to our mind, about how we have handled similar situations, and how many mistakes the other person has made in what is being stated. We normally blurt out at the first chance and criticize the other person, or boast about our superhuman abilities.

A better way is to delay that, keeping quiet and simply listening to the other person, focusing on one's breath if needed.

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Disruption of Progress

Disruption of Progress

Whenever an outside force interrupts our progress - we skip gym for a day or two for example - it sends a message to our brains that we aren't good enough and ...

The Magic of a Fresh Start

A fresh start allows us to let go of what's happened in the past and just be present for ourselves at the moment. It allows us to learn from our failures and gives us the opportunity to do better, to be better, and to grow past the difficulties.

We are allowed to reinvent ourselves and what ever we may be facing. We can reinvent what we want our lives to be. We can always recommit, and remind ourselves why we are committed to this. This fresh start is available to us in every single moment.

The Habit Dip

The Habit Dip

While pursuing a new habit, or eradicating an old one, we often experience a dip in motivation, focus and energy. This is due to many factors, like loss of motivation due to any in...

The Learnings Of The Habit Dip

The habit dip and other dips in motivation teach us the following:

  • Facing our difficulties, and not avoiding them.
  • Self-encouragement.
  • Letting of the false beliefs and ideals that make us discouraged.
  • Dealing with frustration and fear.
  • Self-nourishment.
  • Self-compassion.
  • Avoiding the usual excuses for quitting.
  • Avoiding self-pity or self-concern when things get hard.

Tips For When You're Experiencing Habits Dips

Anyone who has overcome the habit dip (like a marathon runner) will testify that the feelings of discouragement and boredom are temporary. Like everything else, these temporary feelings are waypoints and not endpoints.

  • One has to come with a learning mindset, bringing genuine interest, encouragement and curiosity, letting go of the old beliefs and ideals.
  • One can bring mindfulness and awareness into each body sensation, and the minds many discouragements.
  • A continuous learning experience can make one embrace the difficult areas.