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13 Ways To Stop Seeking The Approval Of Others & Feel Super Confident

13 Ways To Stop Seeking The Approval Of Others & Feel Super Confident



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1. Become aware of your actions

The first step to stop seeking approval of others is to become aware that we are stuck on doubt, insecurity, or uncertainty. We must recognize that our actions (of seeking approval) comes from the emotions and beliefs that arise within us.

Once you become aware of how often you're seeking...

2. Develop a greater sense of self- worth

Sometimes you can be your own worst enemy by having negative thoughts about yourself.

But quashing these is key to recognizing your own worth.

3. Accept yourself as you are

Don't worry about what other people are thinking, but instead solely focus on what makes you happy.

As we accept who we are, we find we don’t need others’ approval or input anymore, because we know the truth about ourselves.

4. Check the accuracy of your beliefs

While there's nothing wrong by collaborating with other people, you don't want to be persuaded because you may not truly believe in your voice yet. By checking the accuracy of your beliefs, you will recognize that your story is not stable and therefore will be able to consider other perspectives,...

5. Practice self-love

Remember to be just as kind to yourself as you are to your friends. This includes doing kind things for yourself, practicing self-care, and letting others love you, as well as practicing self-compassion.

As we build our self-worth, our need to seek approval will diminish dramatically.

6. Try to understand your behavior

Comprehending why you're constantly seeking approval from others can make it easier to eliminate the behavior altogether. "Before you turn to others for approval, stop and ask yourself, 'What do I think about this?' Then, 'Why don’t I trust my own opinion in this matter?' Perhaps you’ll find you ...

7. Journal your thoughts

While writing is already considered to be therapeutic, it can help you figure out your internal struggles. Each day write a full page in a journal of just your top of head thoughts. At the end of the week go through the journal and circle consistent thoughts and feelings. Then on Friday make a li...

8. Trust yourself

Don't let anyone else tell you your choices are not good enough. Hold on to your truth and allow it to absorb into your psyche. When you find your self going into judgment around it, label the judgment as defeating thoughts and push them away.

9. Try to think like a millennial

The Millennial Generation is less likely to do this because they're generally more comfortable with themselves. It's probably because of how they were brought up by everyone 'being awarded' for just participating.

While this might sound silly, essentially you just want to enough gain enoug...

10. Stop comparing

Just because you're not going down the same path as other people doesn't mean it's the wrong path. "Realize you are a unique being with a unique purpose and path in this world, any comparison or need for another's approval is apples to oranges. And, if you are tempted to compare to motivate you t...

11. Continue to practice

Practice makes perfect, right?. Be kind and gentle with your self in this process. In no time at all, you will begin to experience a sense of well-being. This sense of well-being will grow into a generalized feeling of happiness, that you are safe and secure, content with who you are rather than ...

12. Take a break from social media

Sometimes you just need to take a break from being over stimulated by social media. Try to focus on other things like fixing up your resume or reading a new book to help your mind unwind. We become addicted to seeking approval through "likes" and other external accolades. We end up diminishing, s...

13. Become attuned with your inner voice

Learning to trust your gut can be one of the best things you can do for yourself. It can help you understand the path you're supposed to take, and feel more confident in the direction you're going. If we practice, we can become so attuned to our inner voice that we always know what it's telling u...

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