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How to (Kind of) Master Your Neuroticism

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What is Neuroticism?

In the Big 5 Model of personality traits, being a neurotic not only disposes you to anxiety and other negative emotions, but to spending lots of time ruminating about all those feelings. 

Negative feelings will lead a nuerotic person to either internalize, withdrawing into their in...

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"Negative emotion" makes it sound like it's something you need to get rid of. Dalai Lama conceptualizes it as: Rather than calling sadness or anger a negative emotion, call it what it rightly is — a difficult emotion.

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2. Seek Adventure

If you’re unwilling to experience difficult emotions, then you’re going to preclude yourself from things like relationships, fitness or career. 

To combat this, you need to develop a discipline of risk-taking, forcing yourself to do things you wouldn’t do and make that a regular part of you...

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Internally, having a fine-grained understanding of your emotional states can be liberating. When people can describe their emotional states with complexity they experience all sorts benefits, like less alcoholism or

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4. Put It Into Words

The actual act of putting those states into words grants relief. Expressively writing for 20 minutes a day for three days has shown to help people become less depressed, less anxious, and take fewer visits to the doctor.

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5. Hold your thoughts with a looser grip

Don’t believe everything you think. Dispositional mindfulness — or the quality of generally being aware of what you’re thinking and feeling — has been shown to lessen the depressive effects of neuroticism. Meditation also allows you to nonjudgmentally attend to your own emotions, even if they don...

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6. Befriend yourself

In the Buddhist tradition this is called self compassion. With self-compassionyou’re holding your own hand, befriending the emotion, make empathy intrapersonal.

In a formal practice it would go like this: Spend five or seven minutes in body-based mindfulness, which sets the table and gets ...

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