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Why Keeping Your Commitments Is Critical to Your Influence - Michael Hyatt



Why Keeping Your Commitments Is Critical to Your Influence - Michael Hyatt
When we think of someone with integrity, we think of someone we can count on to come through on what they promise. Unfortunately, that's not always a safe bet today. Over the last several years I've noticed a change in the way we use the word integrity.


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Effective Leadership depends on Integrity

Effective Leadership depends on Integrity
  • Trust depends on Integrity. If people can’t rely on your word, they won’t trust you. 
  • Influence depends on Trust. People will refuse the influence of leaders they distrust. 
  • Impact depends on Influence. You can’t make the impact you want unless you can influence others and shift their behavior.




Keeping your word can be costly.

There's nothing wrong with asking to be released from a commitment. 

But if we can't get free, then we need to make good on it. 

If we try living true to ourselves at the expense of others, it'll cost us our relationships, our success, and ultimately everything of real and lasting value.




A Definition of Friendship

A friendship is a mutual relationship between two people that is satisfying, safe


In order for a relationship to be satisfying, it must have a foundation of positivity.

Positive feelings are paramount to our friendships because these are the relationships we are entering by choice. We all want our friendships to add more joy, peace, and support to our lives.


In order for a relationship to be safe, it must develop consistency.

Consistency is the action of repeating our time together which in turn develops our trust as we begin to create and modify expectations of each other. It’s what builds a shared history and increases our commitment and feeling of support in each other.

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Commitment to Personal Goals

Generally, people don't train in themselves the habits, self-knowledge and control structures to ensure they act on their plans and goals.

You can be better at committing to things...

Improve Your Ability to Stick to Things

  1. Start with projects that should be easy to commit to. Don’t start with projects of 3-6 months if you don’t have a strong track-record of one-month successes behind you. 
  2. Start becoming more sensitive about what you commit to. Be cautious about overcommitting.
  3. If you need future flexibility, bake it into your initial commitment, don’t try to wiggle it in later.
  4. Raise the bar on what counts as a valid excuse. View commitment as a long-term skill-building project.

Risk awkward conversations

We are apt to choose the path of safety instead of speaking about issues that worry us. We do not address the problems and fail to influence a change or produce results.

Risk the difficult co...

Challenge assumptions

The world is changing fast. Holding on to the ideas of yesterday can prevent you from achieving success tomorrow.

Be willing to step away from the old assumptions into a place of not knowing. This will leave room to acquire new knowledge to move to a place you truly want to go.

Risk rejection

If all you do is conform, that is all you have to offer.

To set yourself apart, be willing to walk your own path and do what you expect of yourself versus what others expect of you.