11 Self-Sabotaging Phrases to Drop From Your Vocabulary - Deepstash

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“I don’t have time”

“I don’t have time”

Sometimes, “I don’t have time” can be a smokescreen for: “I don’t want to” or “I’m afraid.” When it comes to pursuing life goals, it’s easy to cite lack of time as a reason to not get started. But what if you dedicated just 10 or 15 minutes a day to start work on your next big goal?

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“I don’t know how”

“I don’t know how”

It’s normal we don’t all know how to write a book proposal or run our own business. No one does when they first start. Instead of resting on the excuse that we don’t have some magical fount of necessary knowledge, we can get going on the what, and learn how as we go. Curiosity leads to long-term happiness.

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“I’m not ready”

“I’m not ready”

Even if we earn more money, get more experience, or “settle down,” we still may not feel ready. Because it’s not really about those things, anyway. It’s about our relationship to fear, change, and the unknown. By all means, prepare before leaping. But if we spend spend too much time preparing, we may find ourselves uncertain five — or even ten — years from now.

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“I’m not smart/talented/brave enough”

“I’m not smart/talented/brave enough”

As the story goes, Walt Disney was fired from the Kansas City Star because his editor felt he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” Where would we be today if he had internalized that feedback?

Courage comes from practicing being brave. If we do small things that scare us, our bravery muscle will grow.

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“If only...”

“If only...”

“If only I was younger.” “If only my rent were lower.” “If only I’d gone to a better college.” Phrases like these keep us in a state of fantasy and helplessness. They put us in vicious conditional loops.

Try shifting this statement into one of declarative action. “When I get my Master’s...” or “Tomorrow, I will...” and follow it up with one step you will take towards your goal.

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“I’ll try”

“I’ll try”

In the words of the eternally wise Master Yoda, “Do or do not. There is no try.” Yoda uttered these words when training a young Luke Skywalker out of his surly lack of belief in himself. The concept applies to us non-Jedi knights as well. The words “I’ll try” contain an implicit lack of commitment.

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“Maybe”

“Maybe”

“Maybe” is a great word to keep us stuck in the comfortable malaise of indecision. To avoid committing to bringing that casserole to book club, “maybe” away.

Saying “maybe” to something is still making a choice—a choice that leaves us in limbo and pushes the same choice further down the road. What if we decided now?

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“I should...”

“I should...”

Instead of using “should,” replace it with “I will.” After declaring what we will do, we can enjoy the empowered feeling of making a choice from possibility, rather than fear.

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“If it happens, it happens”

“If it happens, it happens”

While this phrase can at times be useful as an exercise in letting go of the outcome after putting your heart and soul into something. As a standalone, it implies we have zero self-agency or impact on a given outcome. The things we want most don’t just “happen.” They require planning, commitment, and measurement.“

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“But so-and-so really needs me”

“But so-and-so really needs me”

It’s a wonderful thing to help others. But there is such a thing as giving so much as to put us in a perpetual martyr position where there is no time, resources, or bandwidth left to improve ourselves. Are there places in your life where you’re over-functioning for someone or something else? Commit to taking back some of that time for you.

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“Just my luck”

“Just my luck”

Take the last thing that you were mad about. What could you have done differently to improve the outcome? Empowered change starts with taking full responsibility for our choices—and their consequences—both good and bad, rather than habitually blaming “bad luck.”

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Digital marketing at Merkle, a dentsu company. Invested in the symbiosis of marketing, psychology, and design. Sometimes, I tweet about Marketing. 👉

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