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Why we vent
We vent our feelings to connect with other people who can help validate what we're going through. It feels good to know you have someone to rely on who takes the time to listen.
Sharing our feelings also help us to clarify and gain insight into what's causing our complicated feelings. Our confidants can also provide new perspectives and offer sound advice. But if we only vent, we won't address our cognitive needs too. We need to make meaning of what we're experiencing.
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A healthier way to vent
- Be selective about when you vent. Instead of venting to people, you can gain perspective on your own by writing your thoughts down or changing your environment.
- When you vent to others, ask them for their perspective. It will help you not to keep reh...
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Venting negatively affect the listener
While supportive friends and family may care enough to listen and sympathize with us, there's often a limit to how much listeners can actually hear. It can be frustrating to listen to someone wallowing in emotion without learning from their experience. The listener may also "catch" these emotions...
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Venting feelings is not always helpful
Science suggests that while venting your emotions feel good in the moment, it might make matters worse in the long run.
Sharing our emotions reduces our stress and make us feel closer to others. When we open up, and people respond with sympathy, we feel un...
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The dark side of venting
For many years, psychologists believed that dark emotions needed to be released physically, like hitting a soft object, like pillows or punching bags.
- However, this type of emotional venting makes people relive their anger in their bodies, strengthening the neural pathways for anger an...
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Handling empathy gaps
- Visualize different mental states and perspectives. Visualize how you will feel and think when you are in a different mental state. This technique is also helpful to understand someone else's feelings and behavior.
- Explain the different perspectives.
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