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First Impressions: 8 Science Backed Strategies To Make a Lasting Impression
Thin-Slicing
Thin-slicing is when we take a mental snapshot of someone and guess their competence, confidence and likability in less than a second.
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The right place for your first rendez-vous
When choosing the right place for your first date, take into account the risk that things might not work miraculously well from the first try. Therefore, better go for simple places, like pubs, for which you do not have to save one entire month of salary in order to afford the dinner or the clothes.
Keep the conversation going
If you are planning your first date with somebody, make sure to pay a special attention to the topics you want to engage in throughout the date. Keep the conversation smart and the exchange of experiences alive.
Shape your mindset
When going on a first date, make sure your mindset is a positive one, no matter what your previous dating experiences felt like. Embrace the fear of a possible failure while hoping for a pleasant outcome.
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First impressions matter
You’ve got a lot to pack into those seven seconds to make your impression a positive one.
Show confidence in your body language
When you’re nervous, it shows in the way you’re standing or what you’re doing with your hands. The same goes for when you’re confident. Standing tall and making eye contact shows confidence.
If you need a quick boost of confidence, take a power pose. One great power pose is the wonder woman – your hands on your hips, legs out in a V shape, shoulders and back straight, and chin slightly up.
Be aware of the way you speak
- Speak clearly and with an even tone. Not too loud or too quiet, as you could come across as dominating or shy.
- Using filler words such as ‘um’ or ‘so’ or filling in gaps with ‘like’ or ‘you know’ will make you seem less knowledgeable. Pay special attention to your usage of the word ‘like’.
- If you need time to compose your thoughts, simply pause, or restate the question.
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Proper business etiquette
- Be on time.
- Dress appropriately for an occasion.
- Address everyone respectfully, such as by their last name.
- Maintain eye contact, but do not stare.
- Speak clearly, confidently, and do not rush through your thoughts or sentences.
- Offer a firm handshake.
Smile
Smiling is an important social cue, and that other people will respond to smiles on both a conscious and subliminal level.
Good Manners basics
- Language. “Please,” “Thank You,” and “You’re Welcome,” demonstrate to others that you value their effort, thought, and/or generosity.
- Names. Always address others in business by their title (Mr., Mrs., or Ms.) and their last name, unless they request you use a given name or nickname.
- Attire and Dress. The way a person dresses can demonstrate their respect for whoever they are meeting.
- Eye Contact. Most people believe that those who do not make eye contact are lying or avoiding something, or that they lack the confidence to interact effectively with other people.
- Speaking. A clear, well-modulated speaking voice is an important social tool, and contributes to the ease of communication and a good first impression.
- Handshake. While the handshake should be firm, too much pressure shows a desire to dominate and can be a negative signal.