Go into a situation where you will need to speak with people with the mindset of, "I am curious and I want to learn more about other people" , rather than going into it with the mindset of, "Oh no, I’m going to have to talk about myself a lot".
You will lose people, but do not lose yourself. “I don’t want to flee from life, I know the beauty of it... I’m trying not to be alone so much. And, man, it’s a struggle. I want to get married. I want to have kids. That’s at the top of the mountain. I’ve got to climb the mountain first. I’ll do it. Just give me some time.” - Keanu Reeves
5 Life Lessons Everyone Should Learn From Keanu Reeves
If you feel like you're influencing others for the wrong reasons, ask: How am I drawing attention to myself, and away from others? What is the organization missing while it’s focusing on me? If my company relies on me too much, what happens if I need a break, or become ill, or want to do something different? What do I do when I don’t know what to do and have not built up others to contribute? What do I do when all my old tricks of charisma or being “smart” don’t suit some future challenge? What happens if my moral compass becomes shaky, or if I did not develop one before becoming the charismatic leader everyone adores? If I have created this reliance on me, who will help me recognize this and change?