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Why We Make Bad Choices (And How To Stop)
Situations That Lead To Bad Choices
- You expect the worst: We focus only on the negative outcomes without giving attention to the possibility of an unexpected positive outcome.
- You act on impulse: We act quickly, without considering the ramifications of our actions.
- You cling to fear: The greater fear of failure or loss outweighs the likelihood of great reward.
- You play victim: False pride comes between higher thought and an empowering choice.
- You obsess over being in control: The need to be in control, which comes from a deeper feeling of being out of control, directs powerless choices.
- You ignore good advice: Ego or the identification with a false self-image limits us from receiving help from encouraging input.
- You overlook your hidden intentions: A deeper intention of wanting to fail keeps us from having to take to take full responsibility.
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Every Decision In Life Becomes a Trade-Off
... and boils down to what we give up to attain something. Our mindsets are inclined towards pleasure and resistive towards pain. We normally like to think in terms of gai...
Good and Bad Decisions
Decisions are a cost-benefit analysis of risking something small for the opportunity to gain something big.
- Good decisions can be: Exercising, meditating for 10 minutes daily, finding the courage and striking up a conversation with someone, applying for jobs that you may or may not get.
- Bad decisions can be: lying or pretending to someone, driving unsafely, sending angry text messages, or staying up late drinking before an important meeting or exam in the morning.
Trade-offs and Life Values
Trade-offs are not something as simple as flipping a coin. Our values guide us towards what we want in life, and it is not the same for all. Example: Buying a house has a trade-off of mortgage for the next ten or more years. This is subjective and depends on what we value in life.
Indecisive people suffer because they don’t know their inner values and what they care about.
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Develop The Habit Of Thinking Big
... by trial and error and consistently analyzing things related to big ideas, until you've practiced enough your brain can easily establish unusual correlati...
Think Like a Child
The key to shifting your perspective and developing the habit of thinking big involves stepping outside of yourself and into another persona — essentially becoming someone who will help you see things bigger, better and more creatively.
You must also think from the perspective of having no limitations or fears and ask big questions persistently until the right answer comes to mind.
Barriers To Thinking Big
- Limiting habits: procrastination, immediatism, negative thinking, making excuses, solving insignificant problems, over-analyzing, perfectionism.
- People criticize and judge the unknown and big ideas are often so.
- Fears of failure and the unknown restrict us to small thoughts, decisions, and actions.
- Lack of time turns us into small thinkers and immediatists.
- Lack of incentives robs you of the motivation to stretch yourself emotionally or physically.
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Let Me Interrupt You
Research shows that even the best listeners of the world, professional listeners like teachers, therapists, counsellors, coaches, listen only for about 11 seconds at a time.
Humans...
Interruption Diminishes Us
Interruption is a destructive and violent act, and no matter what value the interrupter thinks that may be added by the very act of hedging one’s words in between, the speaker who is interrupted will never heal from the diminishing of his or her thoughts.
Constant interruption creates polarization among individuals and even inside us, and not interrupting may be the very glue that can keep society together.
Enter Smartphones
Interrupting humans were already doing a great job, but now the act is multifold, with the digital devices turning people into loud zombies who sometimes are impossible to talk to.
As if to add salt to a wound, we have, for the past decade or so, the ultimate distraction and interruption device in our pockets, keeping us soaked in junk info, and making our minds relentlessly numb.