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Why We Make Bad Choices (And How To Stop)

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Why We Make Bad Choices (And How To Stop)
We are all faced with challenges that require decision-making. How we meet our challenges though, makes all the difference in the image of success or failure. When we obsess over an outcome we create illusory stress, what most of us think of as "worrying about" something.

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How To Make Better Decisions

How To Make Better Decisions
  • Analyze objectively your assumptions, feelings and expectations
  • Focusing only on the problem limits options for a solution and leads to energy depletion and decisions out of anxiety and frustration. Expand your perspective to be able to see other things, and often a solution will appear somewhere in the composition.
  • Rather than thinking in terms of bad and good when making decision, try to see a more balanced view by embracing the uncertainty of every situation. 

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Situations That Lead To Bad Choices

Situations That Lead To Bad Choices
  • You expect the worst: We focus only on the negative outcomes without giving attention to the possibility of an unexpected positive outcome.
  • You act on impulse: We act quickly, without considering the ramifications of our actions.
  • You cling to fear: The greater fear of failure or loss outweighs the likelihood of great reward.
  • You play victim: False pride comes between higher thought and an empowering choice.
  • You obsess over being in control: The need to be in control, which comes from a deeper feeling of being out of control, directs powerless choices.
  • You ignore good advice: Ego or the identification with a false self-image limits us from receiving help from encouraging input.
  • You overlook your hidden intentions: A deeper intention of wanting to fail keeps us from having to take to take full responsibility.

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Work on the right decision

The way you frame your decision at the outset can make all the difference. 

State your decision problems carefully, acknowledge their complexity and avoid unwarranted assumptions ...

Specify your objectives

A decision is a means to an endAsk yourself what you most want to accomplish and which of your interests, values, concerns, fears, and aspirations are most relevant to achieving your goal.

Decisions with multiple objectives cannot be resolved by focusing on any one objective.

Create imaginative alternatives

Your decision can be no better than your best alternative.

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Make all important & difficult decisions on paper

It relieves pressure from the situation and allows your mind to focus on the task at hand, rather than spiraling into self-doubt and second-guessing.

When making decisions, get clear about your reasons

You’ve got to get absolutely crystal clear about your outcome and your purpose. If you forget the reasons behind your decision, you won’t follow through. 

Don't let fear motivate your decision making

And don’t wait for absolute certainty because you’ll almost never get it. One of the ways to overcome this is to have a consistent process for making decisions. 

Develop The Habit Of Thinking Big

... by trial and error and consistently analyzing things related to big ideas, until you've practiced enough your brain can easily establish unusual correlati...

Think Like a Child

The key to shifting your perspective and developing the habit of thinking big involves stepping outside of yourself and into another persona — essentially becoming someone who will help you see things bigger, better and more creatively.

You must also think from the perspective of having no limitations or fears and ask big questions persistently until the right answer comes to mind.

Barriers To Thinking Big

  • Limiting habits: procrastination, immediatism, negative thinking, making excuses, solving insignificant problems, over-analyzing, perfectionism.
  • People criticize and judge the unknown and big ideas are often so.
  • Fears of failure and the unknown restrict us to small thoughts, decisions, and actions. 
  • Lack of time turns us into small thinkers and immediatists. 
  • Lack of incentives robs you of the motivation to stretch yourself emotionally or physically.