Create an Action Plan

"Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy."

"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' You must do the thing you think you cannot do."

Relationships:

• You keep yourself isolated.
• You make so many demands on your partner that he or she feels smothered and ends the relationship.
• You judge everyone you meet as not being good enough for you.

Work:

• You keep putting off looking for the kind of job you want.
• You are able to work, and say you want to, but keep living off other means.
• You stay in a job that you hate.
• You keep yourself uneducated regarding doing what you really want to do.

• Fear of being wrong. People with this fear are extremely focused on rules, ethics, standards, and “right vs wrong.”
• Fear of not being good enough. Those with this fear tend to be insecure, intensely focused on their image, and desperate to prove their worth. 
• Fear of missing out. This drives leaders to constantly seek new opportunities and experiences and to pursue multiple interests at once.
• Fear of being victimized or taken advantage of. Those suffering from this fear feel the need to win every battle and can be defensive and controlling.

In the first phase, take a close look at your history. Examine the choices you've made and the reasons behind those choices.

For instance, not putting effort into pursuing your own interests but instead, activities in which you can excel could point to the fear of not being good enough.

Your speech is about them, not you. Learn as much about your listeners as you can. This will help you determine your choice of words, level of information, organization pattern, and motivational statement.

And do it in the most effective manner. Write down the topic, the general purpose, specific purpose, central idea, and main points. Make sure to grab the audience’s attention in the first 30 seconds.

A great way to remove a large portion of fear is to practice hard, studying the topic well. You can research all questions that the audience may ask, and practice the speech in front of a mirror or in front of friends.

Practicing soothes our nerves, making us ready for the final audience.

The best and most comfortable place to find humor comes from your own personal experience. 

Jot down funny ideas as you come across it that might appeal to your audience - an embarrassing moment that you might not have found funny at the time, or a funny conversation you had. 

Make sure your choose humor is funny to you. First practice with small groups of people. Pay attention to the way your are delivering the joke or quip.

Only use humor in a speech after you are comfortable telling it from memory and have tested it.

This is the fear of losing any part of our bodily structure or the thought of having our body's boundaries invaded.

Anxiety about animals, such as bugs, spiders, snakes, and other creepy things arises from fear of mutilation.

The fear of being immobilized, restricted, overwhelmed, entrapped, smothered, or otherwise controlled by circumstances beyond our control. 

Fear of intimacy, or "fear of commitment," is basically fear of losing one's autonomy.

• Make sure that you speak up when you have something important to say. 
• Take advantage of your ability to observe other people, the environment you’re in and the energy flow in the room.
• People will pay more attention to what you say when you do speak up.
• You probably have the ability to study things better and faster, so when you do say something make sure that it’s an eye-opener.
• People will trust you more and thus you’ll have access to more privileged information.

• If you want your audience to quiet down, to be calm or to perhaps hang on your every word, speak more quietly.
• f you want to rile up your audience, speak with a stronger voice. You can also use volume to convey your passion.
• Try not to speak too quickly. Most audiences will have trouble following along. Instead, speak at a moderate pace. Slowing down your speech even more will emphasize each word.

Microphones just make any speaking mistakes or tics louder and easier for your audience to detect.

• Slow Down when you speak. Your listeners have an opportunity to absorb and reflect on what you’re saying.
• Use Voice Exercises to strengthen your voice.
• Record And Listen To Your Voice. Look for ways to improve your pronunciation, your delivery, and your pacing.
• Record Phone Conversations. Replay to hear different ways that you could improve your delivery and articulation next time.
• Focus On Pauses. The drama and power of a speech are contained in the silences that you create as you move from point to point.
• Eat And Drink Well. Energy is essential for good speaking and voice projection. Cold water can chill your vocal chords and decrease the amount of warmth in your voice.