Looking at social media for happiness is a bad idea. You won’t find it out there. Your happiness is determined by how you allocate your attention. What you attend to drives your behavior and it determines your happiness.
Changing behavior and enhancing happiness is as much about withdrawing attention from the negative as it is about attending to the positive.
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Living with constant or recurring fear, from post-traumatic stress to paranoia to FOMO, doesn’t improve life quality; it just makes us haunted and tense.
Our task is to live in a FOMO-plag...
When you feel FOMO coming on, remind yourself that practically every image you see on practically any screen is likely misleading.
The human experience depicted by the media is never the whole truth — and often an outright lie.
What if we let FOMO mean something else?
Try inventing your own FOMO definition.
FOMO is the experience of worrying that other people are doing more interesting things than you, have more friends than you, and are just all around living a better and cooler life.
Choosing one path means missing another.
When you feel FOMO coming on, ask yourself if the trigger is really something you wish you were doing yourself, or if the sudden recollection of the great number of choices in life has simply brought on a moment of insecurity about your own.
If it’s the latter, taking a moment to reaffirm your decision is all it takes to chase the FOMO away.
Keep in mind that your FOMO trigger may not relate directly to something you wish you were doing yourself, but can instead point more broadly to something you want to change about your life.
Examine the source of your FOMO before dismissing it; there may be a good reason you feel insecure about your decisions.
Practice taking your time when eating, driving, talking, or engaging in the tasks of everyday living.
Focus on the kinds of things that enhance the quality not the quantity of your experiences.
There are always going to be people we admire and perhaps envy. It’s “the grass is greener on the other side” syndrome.
Focusing on the experience—a feeling of accomplishment, adventure, connection, fun, self-respect, freedom—that underlies the object or symbol—wealth, marriage, a sports car, a luxurious home—helps us distinguish what is truly fulfilling from that which can only provide a temporary feeling of pleasure.
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