Anger as an emotion

• Anger makes you feel morally superior. Every time you criticize someone, the implication is that you're better. He’s such an idiot… (but I’m pretty smart).
• Anger makes you feel in control. It gives you the illusion of control, like you're do...

"You have to express your anger to release it" is a myth. Research shows that expressing your anger only makes it stronger. Turning away from it by doing nothing or distracting yourself leads to less intense anger.

Try to address the source of the anger, not the anger itself. F...

While you can't control your emotions of anger directly, you have control over your aggression, which is a decision to express your anger.

Aggression does not only involve acts of violence. Being overly-critical or judgmental of someone in your mind is an act of aggression, as is replyi...

Most people assume they should manage their anger, but trying to control their anger only makes it stronger. When they fail:

• they will feel angry and disappointed with themselves.
• They will waste psychological resources that they could have spent by managing their aggression.

• Impatience. We become impatient when we have a specific timeline in mind for something that others disregard
• Passive-aggressive communication. When we want to make someone feel bad but want to appear good at the same time. Like sarcasm - an insult dr...

Anger leads us to poor decisions, regrettable behavior, or hurt feelings. However, some anger leads to more significant consequences, like strained relationships or legal trouble.

The key to dealing with your anger more effectively is to understand how it works.

Anger is an emotion, while aggression is a behavior. They differ entirely in one central dimension - control.

• You can't control your emotions directly. In the legal system, nobody gets sent to prison for how they felt...