Let them cope the way they need

The truth is, most people don’t know what you need without you telling them. It’s important to bear this in mind for both your reports and yourself. 

When we achieve something for ourselves as leaders it trickles through the organization as the realization of accommodations...

Every manager has some level of autonomy, and that is a power dynamic that can trickle down to your team. If you can take the heat for someone, do it.

Let them miss the meeting. Let them show up late. Let them step out early. Let them take an afternoon to get groceries.

Make decisions around your team from a place of abundance. There is not a finite amount of kindness, care, creativity, or even power.

What do you have as a manager that your team does not? Power to make decisions. Autonomy to arrange your schedule. Access to other people with those things. ...

A note for managers who are used to delivering results in measured numbers: This may require a shift in mindset toward another kind of success metric, but surviving, healing, and being seen are important parts of being human right now.