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Disengaging difficult personalities

Don't try changing people, try understanding them.

When you try to change someone they tend to resent you, dig in their heels, and get worse. The way to disengage a difficult person is to try understanding where they are coming from.

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“No one can whistle a symphony. It takes a whole orchestra to play it.” - one of my favourite quotes about teasm, by Luccock

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