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How to Develop a Healthier Outlook and Learn to Be Perfectly Imperfect

Take Baby Steps

Perfectionists tend to set goals of unreasonable excellence with no learning curve or room for error. 

Dividing your goals into more achievable steps and rewarding yourself when you achieve them, will make you less stressed, less likely to give up and more forgiving of mistakes. 

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How to Develop a Healthier Outlook and Learn to Be Perfectly Imperfect

How to Develop a Healthier Outlook and Learn to Be Perfectly Imperfect

https://www.verywellmind.com/overcoming-perfectionism-how-to-work-past-perfectionism-3144700

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Key Ideas

Learn To Handle Criticism

If criticism makes you defensive, an attitude change can help.

Constructive criticism can show you how to improve, making your less-than-perfect performances into steps towards excellence. If the criticism you’re receiving is pointed or harsh, it’s okay to remind others and yourself that mistakes are a great way to learn.

Ways To Enjoy The Process

  • Divide your goals into achievable steps,
  • Get involved with others trying to achieve the same goal you are
  • Journal about how you feel and what you learn as you reach toward your goal.
  • When failures happen, reflect and see what you’ve gained in the process.
  • Focus on the process of reaching toward a goal, rather than the goal itself.

Take Baby Steps

Perfectionists tend to set goals of unreasonable excellence with no learning curve or room for error. 

Dividing your goals into more achievable steps and rewarding yourself when you achieve them, will make you less stressed, less likely to give up and more forgiving of mistakes. 

Alter Your Self-Talk

Perfectionists tend to be very self-critical but this can perpetuate unhealthy behaviors and decrease their self-esteem. 

By altering your self-talk positively, you can better enjoy life and gain an increased appreciation for yourself and your work.

Focus On The Positive

Perfectionists tend to notice mistakes and often notice them above all else. But you can soften this tendency by consciously trying to notice the good in things.

When you spot perceived flaws look for five other qualities that you do like. This will balance out your critical focus and become a positive new habit.

Be Aware Of Your Tendencies

You may not see how pervasive perfectionism can be. Becoming more aware of your patterns, you’re in a better position to alter them.

To do that, you can record your perfectionistic thoughts and go over them later writing down what you thought at the time.

Make a Cost-Benefit Analysis

Perfectionism has many negative consequences, and you may be unwittingly experiencing them. 

List the ways perfectionism is hurting you and others, and you’ll be more motivated to shed these tendencies.

Perfectionists Vs. High Achievers

Perfectionism differs from high achievement in its focus. If you are striving for excellence, you can be happy about your achievements and learn from your mistakes.

Perfectionists obsess over perceived insufficiencies, robbing themselves of the satisfaction of succeeding. They consistently fear failing and becoming low achievers.

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Monitor Your Progress

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Get Perspective

Talk honestly and openly to someone about your tendencies and how you’re working on getting better. Ask them to tell you when you are being too fussy about something so you can think about it.

Break The Cycle Of Rumination

  • Take note of when you’re ruminating and what triggers it until you can see your patterns and find ways to counteract them.
  • Don't trust your first reaction when ruminating. It often colors negatively your read of the situation. 
  • Seek a diversion to break the rumination cycle.
  • Think positively: remembering your successes and times you tried new things helps you to not be avoidant of tasks you can’t do perfectly. 

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Break down projects

 ... into manageable tasks. 

This way, you're armed with a set of concrete actions to take rather a vague cloud of high expectations.

Define the next action

... rather than all subsequent steps.

Focusing only on the next action gives you permission to work on something even if you don’t have it all figured out—which is crucial to completing tasks that in the past have left you paralyzed.

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