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7 Strategies For Dealing With Insecurity
Take Baby Steps To Grow
Try to gradually overcome your tendency to feel insecure by introducing yourself to those situations slowly - as a sort of desensitization process.
If you have trouble in social environments, for example, ask trusted friends or family members to go with you and act as a buffer.
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Understanding What You Feel
- That your insecurities have a valid foundation and that you are not silly for feeling insecure;
- That these issues have a logical cause and can, therefore, be logically cured.
Living Without Your Safety Blanket
Make yourself step outside of your comfort zone by removing your usual precautions.
If you typically interact through e-mail or shop online, try picking up the phone instead. Once you are comfortable doing this, take care of business in person.
Changing Your Perspective
Visualize the things that you like or admire and stop looking at yourself so critically. You are likely to be the only person who judges you so harshly.
Doing What You Know Best
Reward Yourself For A Job Well Done
Keep A Progress Journal
Every few weeks, go back and read what you have written in your journal thus far. You will now be able to clearly see the progress you are making.
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Don’t try to fix the difficult person
Accept them exactly as they are.
Accept that they are unable to change, at least at this point in time. Unless you see real change — proof that this person is making an effort&nb...
Be present and direct
Try to avoid getting into a fight-or-flight response, which inevitably leads to becoming defensive.
- Be direct and assertive when you express yourself.
- Stay focused on how you respond.
- Know when the discussion or argument has accelerated to the point of no return. If it gets to this point, stop the interaction, and leave the conversation.
Encourage difficult people to express themselves
Let them fully state their point of view about the issue/conflict/problem without interruption. What do they feel people misunderstand about them? What do they want or expect from others?
The idea is to remain as neutral as possible. Just listening may be enough to allow someone to feel like they have the opportunity to say what’s on their mind.
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Anger and Aggression
- Anger: An emotion felt when we believe we have been wronged.
- Aggression: is an act of expression of the anger, by our words our actions. Aggression can be insults, sarcas...
Validation and Boundaries
- We can try and validate the anger felt by an individual by making them know that their anger is maybe justified while putting firm but respectful boundaries on their aggression.
- We then need to be clear about what type of aggression we are willing to tolerate, setting boundaries on the unacceptable.
- We may have to put our foot down and be ready to leave the conversation or escalate the issue, without falling into the trap of guilt and emotion.
- If possible, we need to restart the conversation when things have cooled down, and diffuse the issue in a calm way.
Avoiding Speculative Self-Talk
Unchecked self-talk can easily turn into self-delusion. The stories we create almost always make you look like the good guy and cannot be termed as objective.
- The way to get out of this speculative self-delusion is to avoid any speculation about other people's anger, at least initially.
- Make sure to note down the facts of the situation. This can make the story less according to your gut instinct, and more towards the objective reality.
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What causes insecurity in a relationship
If your partner feels insecure, it’s because they haven’t dealt with whatever is putting them in a negative state.
This could be that their needs aren’t being met by your relatio...
How to overcome romantic insecurity
The best thing you can do is effectively communicate with your partner.
How does your partner communicate? What’s their communication style? It will take time, effective communication and the desire to improve your relationship to overcome romantic insecurity.
Meet each other’s needs
There are basic human needs that affect every single person on the planet.
- We all strive to feel certain that we can avoid pain and gain pleasure;
- we crave variety in life;
- we want to feel significant;
- connection to others is essential
- growth and contribution help us find fulfillment.
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