The Fear Of Rejection

The first step in this process is to define what you are feared of you should be completely clear of your failure for which you are feared of. Let’s say you are a job seeker who is looking for a good MNC to work with now your fear of failure may include whether I will get a good company to work with, whether I will be good at interview, what if I don’t come up on their expectation but be positive in every way however big or complex the problem or fear just believe in yourself and try to see what are the actual problems you are facing, defining the problem can lead to overcoming the fear of failure in an easy manner.

 Always have a positive attitude whatever the situation is and you will slowly see miracles happening around you so in this step, the simple thing you have to do is to change the way you see the problems, for saying your problem is “what if I get rejected from the interview” now when you change your attitude the problem for you is “what are the things which can lead you to get rejected from the interview”. The difference between these two things is that the former fear is just a worry which makes you more and more worried and there is no solution for it but the latter question is an exact question that has an answer which you can get by small research like you can get rejected from the interview by negative body gestures, lack of vocabulary and so on and when you complete this step you are completely done with what your fear is and what its solution is.

• You feel jealous often.
• You go overboard in the relationship.
• You have thoughts about their partner or spouse leaving you.
• You demand an unrealistic portion of time with your significant other.
• You have difficulty in trusting their partner or spouse and are controlling.
• You always look out for the next relationship or significant other to replace the one most recently lost.
• You feel unworthy, less than or unworthy of love.
• You have lower self-esteem/ self-confidence.
• You end relationships before the other person can.
• You stay in unhealthy or abusive relationships because of the fear of being abandoned or alone.
• You will pursue relationships with people who are emotionally unavailable.

Generally, people who have a fear of abandonment feel they are not worthy of being loved.

When a child is attached to someone, and the person leaves them, they are left feeling that they were not fully loved. Even though this is likely not the truth, the child will wonder what made them unlovable. As an adult, they may still feel there is something about them that makes them not worthy. They often believe they should control things so that the person doesn't leave them.

Behind many fears is worry about doing something wrong, looking foolish, or not meeting expectations — in other words, fear of failure. By framing a situation you’re dreading differently before you attempt it, you may be able to avoid some stress and anxiety.

Goals can be classified as approach goals or avoidance goals based on whether you are motivated by wanting to achieve a positive outcome or avoid an adverse one.

When you’re dreading a tough task and expect it to be difficult and unpleasant, you may unconsciously set goals around what you don’t want to happen rather than what you do want.