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Paralyzed by Perfectionism? Try Rethinking Your To-Do List

Set priorities

... by designating A, B, C, and F Tasks.

  • A tasks: These are what you’ll give most of your time and energy to. Work on these during the time of day when you have the most energy and focus. 
  • B tasks: Leave these tasks for lower energy times of day or batch them together on a particular day later in the week.
  • C tasks: These are tasks that you’ll want to give the least of your energy to.
  • F tasks: Try to delegate or automate these tasks as much as possible. 

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