Practice Identifying Your Feelings

Self-disciplined people know that feelings are not to be trusted.

Self-discipline requires a healthy skepticism of your own emotions.

Emotions are behavioral heuristics — your mind’s guesses about how you should act. Worth paying attention to, but not t...

To distance yourself from the feeling, label it.

This allows you to see your thoughts and feelings for what they are, and not bury them or let them explode.

The error that we make is identifying ourselves with our emotions. We are by ourselves perfect, but we were never told this. Our feelings are not us. Our fear is a separate entity, which we can handle, and tame. We feel angry but cannot become anger ourselves.

Our feeling of unworthiness i...