Trusting your feelings

Trusting your feelings

Self-disciplined people know that feelings are not to be trusted.

Self-discipline requires a healthy skepticism of your own emotions.

Emotions are behavioral heuristics — your mind’s guesses about how you should act. Worth paying attention to, but not to be followed blindly.

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4 Things Self-Disciplined People Don’t Do

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Worrying about Outcomes

Self-disciplined people have a knack for staying focused on effort and ignoring outcomes.

Self-disciplined people are able to make consistent progress toward their goals precisely because they don’t spend much time thinking about them.

Spending too much time thinking about your goals is a distraction from the things you actually have control over — your actions.

The best attitude toward outcomes and goals is to “set it and forget it.”

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Waiting for Motivation

Self-disciplined people view motivation as extra credit — nice to have when it shows up, but never to be expected or counted on.

Feeling a surge of motivation is not required to do hard things.

Self-disciplined people don’t fall into this trap because they understand the true nature of the relationship between feeling and action:

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Relying on Willpower

People with a lot of self-discipline understand that willpower is a last resort.

Willpower should never be a primary strategy for accomplishing difficult things.

Better to avoid temptations in the first place than trying to resist them.

How would I achieve my goals if I had zero willpower?

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Master Self-Discipline
  • Know your weaknesses. You can’t overcome them until you know them.
  • Remove temptations. “Out of sight, out of mind.”
  • Set clear goals and have an execution plan.
  • Build your self-discipline. We aren’t born with self-discipline -- it’s a learned behavior.
  • Create new habits by keeping it simple. Break your goal into small, doable steps.
  • Eat often and healthy. Low blood sugar often weakens a person’s resolve, making you grumpy and pessimistic.
  • Give yourself a backup plan. Give yourself a plan to deal with a potentially difficult situation you know you will likely face.
  • Reward yourself when you accomplish your goals.
  • Forgive yourself when you fall short and keep moving forward.

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10 Powerful Ways to Master Self-Discipline

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Self-Discipline AND Willpower

Chances are, at some point in your life, you’ve tried to change your behavior through sheer willpower. And chances are, you also failed miserably. Don’t feel bad! This is what happens most of the time. 

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If Self-Discipline Feels Difficult, Then You're Doing It Wrong

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Make yourself accountable for what you do or don’t do. You don’t have to do things to prove something to others.

Make a To-Do list with your goals, intentions and proposed actions, and try to stick to it.

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Build Self-Discipline By Forming These Habits - Darius Foroux

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