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Cora H.

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Stoic Premeditation

Stoic Premeditation

Thoughtfully observe your fear and imagine the worst that could happen.

Realizing the consequences of what scares you are not too dire reminds you that you are not afraid of what other people will do but of the feelings it will cause in you. It’s a fear of something you will cause to yourself and that can be changed.

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