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5 Conversation Habits Of Charismatic People

Listen Intently

When you’re talking to someone, everything else should be put on hold. Put your phone away and avoid looking at your computer screen if the person visits your office. 

And if you’re expecting a call, say so before you start the conversation.

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5 Conversation Habits Of Charismatic People

5 Conversation Habits Of Charismatic People

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Show Vulnerability

Because it makes you look more human and can help people identify with you.

You can start by sharing your struggles and failures, but don't fall for the trap of sitting around complaining about your job.

Use Humor

Don't overdo it. Insert the small funny stories that happen in your life in conversations.

You can keep a journal of your funny stories so you can use them later in a conversation or presentation.

Listen Intently

When you’re talking to someone, everything else should be put on hold. Put your phone away and avoid looking at your computer screen if the person visits your office. 

And if you’re expecting a call, say so before you start the conversation.

Use Your Hands

  • If you usually use your hands when you talk, be careful to match your gestures with what you're saying. Your hands should add meaning to your words.
  • If you’re not a person who talks with your hands, that’s okay, too. Drop them to the side.

Make Eye Contact

This is a good way to assert control.

Avoid looking down. It may indicate either aggressiveness or shyness, depending on how long you stare down.  In both cases, it is not inviting.

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Don’t: Confuse humor with bad joke telling. And don’t overdo on the self-deprecation to the point you push yourself out of the conversation that it takes away from who you are.

Use Body Language

Be open, approachable, gracious and graceful. Walk up to someone, smile, make eye contact, shake hands. Introduce yourself by saying your name.

Don’t: Overdo it. When you smile, be authentic. If your smile is not in your eyes, people will know you're faking it.

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Trusting your instincts

Your first impressions are usually pretty accurate. But whether they are wrong or right, first impressions affect us in a big way and we are slow to change them.

You have to be willing to update them quite rapidly. 

Reading first impressions
  • Studies show that if someone seems extroverted, confident, religious or conscientious, they probably are.
  • We all pay more attention to pretty people, and so we tend to take the time to evaluate them.
  • If you want to know if someone is good at their job, watch them do it for 30-60 seconds. 
  • Funny people are smart: Effective humor production acts as an honest indicator of intelligence in humans.

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Make People Feel Important

A charming person makes everyone, regardless of their status, feel important. People around them feel heard, understood, and worthy of their time.

Remember Names

It feels good to hear our own names, and when someone uses it we're more likely to pay greater attention to them.

Use mnemonic devices if you have a hard time remembering names.

Compliment With Confidence

When someone known for their charisma compliments you, it gives the impression that it is not only sincere but valuable, because of their natural confidence.

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