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Way To Self Sabotage
That knee-jerk impulse of “Don’t tell me what to do!” can kick in even when it’s you telling yourself what to do.
This is common when you’re trying to make commitments and follow through on them by building a schedule . You may have scheduled time for something that you legitimately want to do—say, work out or read a book.
But when it comes time to do those things per your timeboxed schedule , you might feel a bit of reactance. Because, it doesn’t feel as though you’re deciding what to do. Rather, it’s you from the past giving orders to your present self. Ugh, who does that guy think he is?
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Because You Said It, I'm Not Going To
You think of doing something nice like helping your parent wash dishes, but right at that moment your parent asks you to do them. How'd you feel?
Atleast in your mind, you'd be saying “I was going to. But now that you’ve asked me to, I don’t want to anymore.”
This was a clas...
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Psychological Reactance
It is our knee-jerk negative reaction to being told what to do. We all have a negative mental reflex. It kicks in whenever we sense that our autonomy is being threatened.
This isn’t inherently bad—if you're too compliant, you're vulnerab...
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Avoid The Resistance
Instead of flaking on commitments because of a knee-jerk feeling, you can change your perspective on the situation.
To disarm psychological reactance, by talking to yourself differently.
- Don't say I have to do something
- Say, I get to or even deserve...
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Why we do the opposite of what we are supposed to do
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