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Your Attachment Style Determines the Quality of Your Connections

Anxious-Preoccupied

This could be you if you often feel like you give more to relationships than you get back.
You worry people don't value you.
You tend to exaggerate when you show people the value you place on them.
This anxiety might not be attractive to people that don't have the same attachment style.

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Your Attachment Style Determines the Quality of Your Connections

riskology.co

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Attachment style

It describes the way you relate to others based on how you perceive yourself and the people around you.

Anxious-Preoccupied

This could be you if you often feel like you give more to relationships than you get back.
You worry people don't value you.
You tend to exaggerate when you show people the value you place on them.
This anxiety might not be attractive to people that don't have the same attachment style.

Dismissive-Avoidant

This could be you if you put your independence above all.
You tend to think less of others.
You carefully guard your emotions and try at all costs to keep away from rejection.
You're more likely to connect with people who express the anxious-preoccupied type because they’re more likely to accept the power imbalance.

Fearful-Avoidant

This could be you if you are independent, but because you struggle with trusting others.
You fear that you might get hurt by other people.
You seem detached and distrustful and that will influence in a negative way the way people interact with you.

The Secure Attachment Style

With a secure attachment style, you are comfortable with showing and accepting vulnerability.
You are self-aware: you know who you are are you are comfortable in your skin.
You don’t really worry about being lonely or if people accept you, and being connected to others is as important as maintaining your independence.

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Attachment Theory is an area of psychology that describes the nature of emotional attachment between humans. It begins as children with our attachment to our parents. The nature of this attachment, and how well it's fostered and cared for, will then influence the nature of our attachment to romantic partners later in our life.

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Attachment Theory

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Secure Attachment Style

People with this style are comfortable showing interest and affection.
They are comfortable being alone and independent.
They can correctly prioritize their relationships.
They are able to draw clear boundaries and stick with them.

50% of the population is secure attachment types.

Anxious Attachment Style

They are often nervous and stressed about their relationships.
They need constant reassurance and affection from their partners.
They have trouble being alone or single.
They are often in unhealthy or abusive relationships.
They have trouble trusting people.
Their behavior can be irrational and overly emotional.

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Rekindling Of An Old Flame

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The Protest Phase

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Even the silence that they exhibit seems to kindle the patients into divulging more of their most uncomfortable truths.
Others keep the sequence of assignments and tests lined up, never pausing.
Therapists play varied roles to get some valuable information out of the patient and make him better.

Therapy That Works

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Different people prefer or respond to different forms of therapy.

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