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8 Steps To Push Past Your Limits When You Think You've Hit Them

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To gain confidence, you may need help to get fresh perspectives, training, or mentorship.

You may also find it useful to create a small community who support you in your goal quest and believe in your ability. Such a group can make you more resilient and committed, especially when you’re feeling nervous, discouraged, or vulnerable.

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8 Steps To Push Past Your Limits When You Think You've Hit Them

8 Steps To Push Past Your Limits When You Think You've Hit Them

https://www.fastcompany.com/3062237/8-steps-to-break-through-self-limiting-beliefs-for-greater-performance

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Make Some Space

Give yourself periods for resting and thinking so you’re not overwhelmed by the constant challenge and lose motivation. By taking breaks, you’ll be better able to perform and come up with solutions to challenges. 

Learn From Losses

While overcoming your limitations, you’ll likely experience failure and you should scour those for lessons. 

Use a Little Healthy Imitation

It can be beneficial to find a role model and engage in some healthy imitation. Done well, it can give you some confidence.

You shouldn’t copy everything about the person. But notice how they act and try mimicking their successful habits until you can adapt them to your own style.

Ask For Help

To gain confidence, you may need help to get fresh perspectives, training, or mentorship.

You may also find it useful to create a small community who support you in your goal quest and believe in your ability. Such a group can make you more resilient and committed, especially when you’re feeling nervous, discouraged, or vulnerable.

Build Confidence

Set small goals and action items to move you toward your goal and celebrate those small accomplishments along the way. Celebrating the small wins is critical because otherwise, the new goals that will come up may make you feel like you never do enough.

Accept The Discomfort

Pushing towards your goals can make you feel vulnerable or afraid of failing. But you must resist the temptation to stop if you want to succeed.

Your brain is constantly trying to keep you safe. But once you accept that you’ll feel discomfort in stretching yourself and taking risks, the anxiety and fear diminish.

Get In Touch With Your Motivations

Think where you are now and where you want to be to feel fulfilled to get a general direction in which to move forward.
Ask yourself the following questions:
  • What helps you find meaning in life?
  • What’s your purpose statement?
  • What brings you joy?

“They” Language

When your beliefs refer to an ambiguous “they, ” there’s a good sign that they’re manufactured and not real. Statements like, “They’ll never give me a shot, ” or, “They’re going to know I’m too…, ” are good examples.

Don’t assume what’s going on in others’ heads–especially of those “others” who haven’t told you directly that you’ve got a limitation.

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Look Out For “They” Language

When your beliefs refer to an ambiguous “they, ” there’s a good sign that they’re manufactured and not real. Statements like, “They’ll never give me a shot, ” or, “They’re going to...

Fake It ‘Till You Make It

It can be beneficial to find a role model and engage in some healthy imitation. Done well, it can give you some confidence.

You shouldn’t copy everything about the person. But notice how they act and try mimicking their successful habits until you can adapt them to your own style. 

Build In Recovery Time

Desperation can drive you to push constantly against the boundaries constraining you. But, to avoid burning out, it may be better to tackle your limitations in pulses, with adequate time to reflect and recover between each bout of intense effort.

Pain management

A study done at Keele University in the U.K. measured the effects swearing had on pain tolerance. They found that we can withstand more pain when using profanity.

Swearing triggers the fi...

It improves your workout

One study found that participants who swore saw a 2 to 4 percent increase in performance and an 8 percent boost in strength compared to those who kept their mouths shut.

Cursing diverts your attention, which makes you work harder than if you were only focusing on how tough the workout is.

It releases stress

When we complain or vent without cursing, we are keeping ourselves in check and don't totally release all feelings.

Cursing can be an effective emotional release. Our whole body and all emotions are connected with no filter.

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Purpose of storytelling

In the workplace, storytelling serves as an essential, powerful tool for effective communication.

It gets people excited around an idea, or a value, or perhaps some drier information t...

Tip 1. Make it personal.
Great stories reveal a piece of yourself. Ask yourself:

- What makes you care about the work that you do?
- What part of you outside of your work is present inside of that world?
- If in financial services, for example, what is it behind the numbers and data that are at the emotional core of your work?

Tip 2. Show passion

The story needs to have stakes without being necessarily significant. Ask yourself:
What gets you excited about what you’re talking about? 
- Why do you care? 


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Stories create “sticky” memories

...by attaching emotions to things that happen. That means those who can create and share good stories have a powerful advantage over others.

Facts and figures and all the rational thi...

Start with a message
First, settle on your ultimate message; then you can figure out the best way to illustrate it.

Every storytelling exercise should begin by asking: Who is my audience and what is the message I want to share with them? 

Each decision about your story should flow from those questions. 

Use personal experiences
The best storytellers look to their own memories and life experiences for ways to illustrate their message. 

Think of a moment in which your own failures led to success in your career or a lesson that a parent or mentor imparted.

There may be a tendency not to want to share personal details at work, but anecdotes that illustrate struggle, failure, and barriers overcome are what make leaders appear authentic and accessible.

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We Are Born Creative

Human beings are born with a capacity to reflect, evaluate, to come up with new ideas, and find new connections. We think such creative abilities are for a chosen few, but we all have it. We may ha...

Decades of Wrong Beliefs

Productivity requires continuous output, while creativity is a non-linear, messy, disjointed process that needs to be unstructured.

We have decades of exposure to historical and cultural beliefs on how work should be and what it means to be successful, so it is hard for us to understand creativity.

Ignite The Fire

To be creative, we have let our brains loose. The mind needs rest and time every day to daydream, imagine and get intentionally bored. Letting our minds free is an incredibly important cognitive exercise.

Take the time to expose yourself in diverse subjects, things that inspire you and dissolve boundaries can foster creativity. Identify and let go of wrong beliefs and outdated stories you tell yourself every day.

Reduce the stress of clutter
  • Apply constraints and stick to them: to tabs open in your browser, notebooks, magazines etc.
  • Use small storage spaces: Less room means less room for c...
Find places that inspire you

You might not be in a position to choose your workspace, but there are quick fixes: look for a spot with natural light from a window or skylight, take a walk outside when you feel stuck, or simply explore a new location. 

A new environment can quite literally lead to new ideas.

Task association

It's when your brain knows that when you’re in a certain place, you’re taking a certain action.

Take advantage of the way different locations affect you. Our brains love habits, and if we can associate certain qualities with different places, it can help us get into a better working flow. 

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Restrict yourself

Research suggests placing self-imposed limitations can boost creativity. 

It forces your brain to come up with creative solutions to finish a project around the parameters you’ve ...

Re-conceptualize the problem

Instead of thinking of a cut-and-dry end goal to certain situations, creative people sit back and examine the problem in different ways before beginning to work.

If you find yourself stagnating by focusing on generic problems, try to re-conceptualize the problem by focusing on a more meaningful angle.

For example: Instead of thinking “What would be something cool to paint?” rather ask, “What sort of painting evokes the feeling of loneliness that we all encounter after a break-up?”

Create psychological distance

Creating “psychological” distance may be useful for breaking through a creative block.

Try to imagine your creative task as being disconnected and distant from your current position/location - this may make the problem more accessible and can encourage higher level thinking.

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You are not your thoughts

Most of us will do anything not to feel worried or dissatisfied and will try and find ways to soothe ourselves or find ways out of our problems.

However, the key to healing and understanding ...

Separate thoughts from the act of thinking

We usually buy into what our feelings tell us and allow them to overly direct our actions and choices. 

Instead, notice the act of thinking without getting tangled in your thoughts. See your thoughts as ongoing attempts to make meaning of the world — give them power only to the degree that they help you. 

Disobey yourself on purpose

The mind's power over you is an illusion. For instance, say one thing while doing the opposite. You will find that it is possible to do the opposite of what you are thinking. (For example, type, I cannot type this sentence, while you are typing the sentence.) Regularly doing this exercise can give you more freedom to do hard things.

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If you believe things about yourself like…
  • “It's hard for me to lose weight.”
  • “I'm not good with numbers.”
  • “I'm not a natural athlete.”
  • “I'm not creative.”
  • “I'm a procrastinator.”

...it...

Actions change your beliefs

It's your daily actions that will change what you believe about yourself and the person you become. 

Focus on the process. Focus on showing up,  on sticking to the schedule, on “not quitting.

Eventually, the results and the self–confidence will come anyway. 

Reframing your mindset

Stop reacting to life and start responding to it.

If you want to really change, you need to start reframing your mindset. You’re not in control of everything that happens to you, but y...

Henry David Thoreau
Henry David Thoreau

“It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.”

What mindset is

A mindset is a set of assumptions, methods, or notations that is so established that it creates a powerful incentive within you to continue to adopt or accept prior behaviours, choices, or tools.

It’s so powerful that it affects every decision-making process. It predetermines your responses and interpretations of situations.

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