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How to Identify and Learn from Your Mistakes
How we perceive failure
We see mistakes and failure as shameful things. And we usually identify with them:
If I fail a test, then I am a failure. If I make a mistake then I am a mistake.
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Learning from mistakes
You can only learn from a mistake after you admit you've made it.
Don't start blaming other people (or the universe) for the things that go wrong, because you distance yourself from any possible lesson.
How we perceive failure
We see mistakes and failure as shameful things. And we usually identify with them:
If I fail a test, then I am a failure. If I make a mistake then I am a mistake.
Learning from mistakes
It requires three things:
- Putting yourself in situations where you can make interesting mistakes.
- Having the self-confidence to admit to them.
- Being courageous about making changes.
The 4 kinds of mistakes
- Stupid: Absurdly dumb things that just happen.
- Simple: Mistakes that are avoidable but your sequence of decisions made inevitable.
- Involved: Mistakes that are understood but require effort to prevent.
- Complex: Mistakes that have complicated causes and no obvious way to avoid next time.
Mistakes and humor
When you can laugh at your own mistakes you know you've accepted it and no longer judge yourself on the basis of one single event.
Humor loosens up your psychology and prevents you from obsessing about the past.
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- Acknowledge the mistake. There’s no hiding it now. Everyone saw!
- Correct the mistake. If it’s necessary, make whatever correction you need to get things back on track.
- Make a joke. Make fun of yourself. Get everyone laughing and they won’t care anymore.
- Move on! And don’t bring up your flub again until you’re totally in the clear.
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Learn from your mistakes
Once you learn from your mistakes, don't repeat them.
The best leaders know creativity often means breaking rules, making mistakes and learning along the way. Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes; leadership is learning from them.
Teach others from your mistakes
When you make mistakes, make a point of teaching others what you've learned. Doing so builds connection and trust.
The best leaders are the great teachers, coaches, and guides who show us the way after they have been down that path.
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