Learn your Emotional Kryptonite

We all tend to have a particular emotion that they’re especially afraid of and try to avoid.

Identifying your own personal emotional kryptonite is important because many of our bad decisions and ill-advised behaviors are actually the results of trying to avoid particularly uncomfortable emotions.

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Emotional Clarity: 6 Key Principles for Managing Your Emotions

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