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Asking other people questions — about their lives, their interests, their passions — is a surefire way to get brownie points in their friendship books. People are egocentric — they love to talk about themselves.
If you’re asking questions and getting people to talk about themselves, they’ll leave the conversation thinking you’re the coolest. Even if the conversation didn’t really give the other person a reason to like you, he or she will think better of you subconsciously just for indulging this or her ego.
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It has been shown that very subtle physical touch makes individuals feel more connected to you. A great example is gently touching someone’s forearm (with your left hand) while shaking hands (with your right hand) — it’s a great way to f...
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People love a good story, and great stories require sophisticated storytellers.
Storytelling is an art form that requires an understanding of language and pacing. Master the fine oral tradition of storytelling and people will flock to you like you’re The Bard.
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One great example of situations in which it’s important to avoid clichés is in interviews. Rather than parroting the “nice to meet you”s at the conclusion of an interview, add some kind of variation to make you memorable, even in a tiny way. Try something like “I’ve really enjoyed talking with yo...
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As noted again by the famous self-improvement expert Dale Carnegie,individuals crave authentic appreciation. This is very different from emptyflattery, which most people are adept at detecting. No one likes a brown-nose, and most people don’t particularly love being pandered to. What peo...
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People will like you more if you listen to them. This starts with ignoring your Twitter feed while out to dinner with friends, but goes a lot further than that.
You can show you’re listening to someone through body language (positioning your body to face someone and mirror...
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To really show someone you’ve been paying attention, try bringing up a topic that the person mentioned earlier.
They don’t have to be big, life-changing events. In fact, sometimes it says more that you can recall and show interest in even the small happenings in another pe...
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People have delicate egos, and even a slight word of condemnation can wound someone’s pride. Of course correction will be necessary at times, but it should always have a purpose and be handled with care.
If someone makes an error, don’t call that person out in front of a group. Be disc...
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We’re all huge narcissists and we all love the sound of our own name. Learn names and make use of them. Always use an individual’s name in a conversation.
A classic from Dale Carnegie’s famous book How to Win Friends and Influence People, this tried-and-true techn...
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As humans, we use social interaction as a tool for feedback, and we make a lot of conscious and subconscious choices based on how others engage with and respond to us.
When someone offers a huge grin brimming with authenticity, happiness rubs off on its receivers. There have been m...
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People like to see character and authenticity. Try to be confident but respectful. Some cooperation experts suggest stepping toward a person and bending slightly forward when you’re introduced, in a gesture of a bow.
These kinds of gestures can go a long way toward making people t...
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Most psychology books refer to this technique as “active listening.” Active listening revolves around demonstrating your listening skills by repeating segments of what an individual has said to you.
It makes the other individual feel as though you really are paying attention
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Asking someone for advice is, somewhat surprisingly, a great strategy for getting people to like you. Asking for advice shows that you value the other individual’s opinion and demonstrates respect.
Everyone likes to feel needed and important. When you make someone feel bet...
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No one enjoys being bossed around. So what do you do when you need something done? The truth is that you can get the same result from asking a question as you can by giving an order.
The outcome may be the same, but the individual’s feeling and attitude can vary greatly de...
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When conversations stall, ask people about themselves or about their interests. This is especially good to connect with unknown people.
They will feel like you care about them, know and listen to them. Engaged individuals will reciprocate, and you will have a better conversation.
We like to talk about topics that interest us. But to have better conversations, step out of yourself for a moment and think more about the other person.
Ask open-ended questions, starting with who, what, when, where, why or how. "What was that like?" "How...
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