10 Habits of Happy Couples
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Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times.
They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps.
Don’t minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them.
At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevents you from appearing too dependent.
If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.
If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something.
If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for.
Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work.
Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact. They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.
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