Seven Steps To Genuine Curiosity

• You care. If you don’t really care what their answer is, don’t ask the question in the first place.
• You listen. Don’t pick up your phone. Don’t avoid eye contact.
• You empathize. You feel how they feel.
• You articulate.
• You reflect.
• You follow. You stick with their story, track the names and relationships, note the details and the conflicts.
• You read. Before asking a question, it’s important to know if your date wants to be asked a question in the first place.

A random question has no Explainable relevance to the moment. A question that elicits gross mental images, slanders people or embarrasses your date is a Chinese finger trap of conversational Homicide. 

A vanilla question can feel like a Cover-Up as if you can't think of any...