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50 Ways Happier, Healthier, And More Successful People Live On Their Own Terms

Stop obsessing about the outcome

When setting goals, your locus of control should target what you can control.

Do what is right, let the consequence follow.

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50 Ways Happier, Healthier, And More Successful People Live On Their Own Terms

50 Ways Happier, Healthier, And More Successful People Live On Their Own Terms

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Read 1 book per week

Ordinary people seek entertainment. Extraordinary people seek education and learning.

Taking even 15–30 minutes every day (especially during the morning) to read uplifting and instructive information changes you. It puts you in the zone to perform at your highest.

Do something that terrifies you

But you don’t have to constantly be battling your fears. You only need to be courageous for 20 seconds at a time.

If you courageously confront fear for 20 seconds every single day, before you know it, you’ll be in a different socio-economic and social situation.

“A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.”

“A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.”

Do something kind for others

Taking the time to help other people is one of the greatest joys in life. Helping others opens you up to new sides of yourself.

It helps you connect deeper with those you help and humanity in general.

“Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved.”

“Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved.”

Remove all non-essentials

Most of the possessions you own, you don’t use. Most of the clothes in your closet, you don’t wear. Get rid of them.

It will boost your motivation and give you clarity and welcome a new form of energy into your life. You can use that energy in more useful and productive ways.

Stop obsessing about the outcome

When setting goals, your locus of control should target what you can control.

Do what is right, let the consequence follow.

Defining happiness and success

Define what wealth and happiness mean to you, in your own terms. 

If we don’t, society will for us — and we will always fall short. We’ll always be left wanting. We’ll always be stuck comparing ourselves and competing with other people.

“Be everything to everybody and you’ll be nothing for yourself.”

“Be everything to everybody and you’ll be nothing for yourself.”

Maximum 3 items on your to-do list

Have no more than 3 items on your to-do list each day.

Instead of doing a million things poorly, the goal becomes to do a few things incredibly — or better yet, to do one thing better than anyone else in the world.

“If you have more than three priorities, then you don’t have any.”

“If you have more than three priorities, then you don’t have any.”

Healthy life changes

  • Stop consuming refined sugar. It is worse for our brains than it is for our waistlines.
  • Fast from all food and caloric beverages 24 hours once per week.
  • Go to bed early and rise early. Make sure you get 7+ hours of sleep each night.
  • Consume 30 grams of protein within the first 30 minutes of waking up.
  • Drink 64–100 ounces of water per day.

Rituals for happiness

  • Make your bed first thing in the morning.
  • Write in your journal for 5 minutes per day.
  • Make a bucket list and actively knock items off.
  • Fast from the internet 24 hours once per week.
  • Stop consuming the news or reading the newspaper.
  •  Check your email and social media at least 60–90 minutes after you wake up.

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Focus on the task

Instead of worrying about the outcome, worry about the task at hand.

That means developing tunnel vision. When you keep your eye on the task at hand (and only the task at hand), all you can see is the concrete steps necessary to excel.

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Keep yourself accountable

Making a commitment to yourself helps keep you accountable. 

Write your goals down, keep a to-do list with you, and create reminders on your phone and on your calendar.

Make yourself accountable to others
  • Tell everyone what you plan to do and talk about your goals. Tell friends, employees, and employers your intentions and you won’t want to let them down. 
  • Start documenting and sharing your journey. A blog or vlog where you share the projects you’re working on and your progress will encourage you to get things done. 
Cut out temptations

If you’re a chronic procrastinator and simply can’t resist the temptations of things like Facebook and Youtube, it might be time to cut out temptations.

There are tools such as Rescue Time, SelfControl and Focus that will temporarily block access to distracting websites like Facebook. Less aggressive tools such as Facebook Newsfeed Eradicator and Distraction Free Youtube will allow you to have access to Facebook and Youtube but block the distracting parts of these websites (such as the newsfeed).

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Don't over caffeinate yourself

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Don’t talk too much

If you’re lucky, brain fog will attack when you’re blocking someone from the coffee machine. They will startle you when they ask you to move aside and apologize for frightening you.

Don’t come clean. Smile graciously and make a joke about the funny weather you’ve been having. 

Be poised. Distract or redirect

If brain fog attacks on a date or at work, don’t sweat it! Make sure they don’t catch that moment your eyes start to glaze over. Take a sip of coffee, make a joke. 

Remember your cues: maintain eye contact, nod at regular intervals and keep a neutral facial expression. Worst case scenario, they’ll think you’re conceited.

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  • Something needs to fail that is covered.
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  • The cost of the repairs should exceed the price we paid for the warranty.
A better approach

Instead of buying warranties, consider setting up your own warranty coverage by putting the money aside in an interest-bearing savings account. Then you have full control over the money and can re-purpose those funds.

This strategy will work in your favor more often than it won't. Consider setting aside about half of the cost of the item you bought.

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  • It allows you to understand and see things from a different point of view. 
  • It allows you to respond, not react.
  • It facilitates a deeper level of learning.
  • It improves confidence.
  • It makes you challenge your assumptions.
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  • STOP: Take a step back from life or a particular situation.
  • LOOK: Identify and get perspective on what you notice and see.
  • LISTEN: Listen to your inner guide, the innate wisdom that bubbles up when you give it time and space to emerge.
  • ACT: Identify the steps you need to take moving forward to adjust, change or improve.

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Count your blessings

There’s nothing like a little thankfulness to boost your mood. Research shows expressing gratitude can make you happier

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Remind yourself how great you are

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