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Stop Blaming Others or Your Fate

People who have what psychologists call an "internal locus of control " attribute their success to their own hard work or abilities. They also are more successful in life. When you believe you alone are responsible for your circumstances, you'll make necessary changes in your life to achieve success. If you sit around blaming everyone else for your problems--an "external locus of control"--your situation will remain as it is. So, if you're in an unfulfilling relationship, end it. If you're in a job which makes you miserable, quit it. If you feel lonely, go make some friends . If you're unhappy about carrying too much weight, hire a trainer who can help you establish the right habits. You are the only one who can make your life better.


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