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Make Your Own Rules For Life
Develop your personal clarity
- Define what success means to you personally.
- Create a vivid mental image of you as a success. This image should be as vivid as you can make it.
- Clarify your personal values.
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Philosophy of life
A philosophy of life means a mental framework for understanding how the world works and how you fit into it. It would include how you decide what is good and bad, what you mean wit...
Three groups of philosophy of life
- The True North Group: You have a compass for life and know which direction is the correct way. When asked about your philosophy of life, you could explain it immediately and concisely.
- The Dusty Compass Group: You have a compass for directing your life, but you don't always know how to use it. You may have a loosely organized philosophy but may not use it to filter and direct your experience.
- The Inbox Group: You may not have a compass. Life may be about something, but you don't know. Your approach is to deal with life the way you manage email: You are just directing your attention to whatever lands in your inbox.
The True North group
The difference between the members of these three groups is internal. You won't be able to spot them instantly.
In general, it is better to live as a member of the True North group, provided you remain humble, curious, and open to the possibility you may be wrong.
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"By far the most significant learning experience in adulthood involves critical self-reflection - reassessin..."
Jack Mezirow
3 areas of life to clarify
You need to have absolute clarity over 3 fundamental facts:
- Your goals (the destination)
- Your current situation (your coordinates)
- The path that connects both of them (the route).
A very simple, but crucial principle: if you don’t know where you are, you can never reach the place where you want to be.
The world of the status quo bias
Making an alternative choice is hard because we are neurologically wired to favor the default solution, even if it brings suboptimal results.
As the complexity of a decision increases, so does our tendency to stick with the answer we know.
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In order to stay motivated, you need a purpose
Without purpose, motivation does not stand a chance.
So start thinking about your purpose, what makes your inner motivation stay alive and do your best to accomplish it.
Viktor Frankl
“What man actually needs is not a tensionless state but rather the striving and struggling for a worthwhile goal, a freely chosen task.”
Improve your personal accountability
Making sure you hold yourself accountable in order to keep up the motivation and, therefore, accomplish your goals, is easier than it sounds.
All you have to do is to commit and express your commitment also in front of others. This will lead to you wanting to be consistent and, therefore, it will make it harder to give up.