If you are unhappy

Wanting to get away from the unhappiness doesn’t make it better. It usually just prolongs the pain.

Instead, tell yourself that it’s OK to feel unhappy. Pause and allow yourself to feel it, to fully immerse in that unhappiness. Be curious about it, explore it, become intimate with it...

"Don't allow yourself to be heard any longer griping about public life, not even with your own ears!" - Marcus Aurelius

• It calls to mind a motto of British prime minister Benjamin Disraeli: "Never complain, never explain." He said this because, like Marcus, he knew that the b...

You can't change somebody's behaviour, but you can control how you handle them over time.

• Don't ever tell them that things "aren't so bad" as this gives the message that you're not taking their pain seriously.
• Don't ever complain about the complainer...